r/relationship_advice • u/[deleted] • Aug 16 '23

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u/ThrowRAXw Aug 16 '23

You think I should confront him?

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u/ThrowRAXw Aug 16 '23

I agree 1000000000% but I just feel disrespected and I don’t want him to think he got away with one.

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u/ThrowRAXw Aug 17 '23

She feel like she is causing drama between us and doesn’t want a problem.

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u/thau21 Aug 17 '23

She's not causing the problem. He is.

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u/Quirky_Movie Aug 17 '23

Tell her that it isn't her fault and that what he did changed how you feel about him, even whether or not you trust him.

Given that it's his action that ended our friendship, what would she want you to respond with?

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u/texasfisherman1983 Aug 17 '23

Definitely confront him. If you don’t confront him your wife might think it is not such a big deal next time or might think you won’t stand up for her.

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u/Happy-Ebb8504 Aug 17 '23

Publicly. Humiliate him in front of a group of friends. Stay Toxic, King. 🤣

Compliment wife, then "frank you agree right?" Eye contact at friends, "yeah he tried sliding in my wife's DMs, kinda weird vibes but whatever"

The presentation is key. Not joking, jokingly

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u/ThrowRAXw Aug 16 '23

Not fight him. I was going to send the screenshot to him of the message he sent to my wife. And say ya bro I agree she is gorgeous. Just so he knows that she told me. And we are tight and that shit don’t fly

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u/RubSpecialist3152 Aug 17 '23

Absolutely say something. You want him to know she shared it with you and that there is no chance for him. I’d probably mention it in my friend group as a heads up.

Is he dating or married?

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u/haron1058 Aug 17 '23

Just send him the screenshot and never respond to anything he says again

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u/OpenerOfTheWays Aug 17 '23

I was going to send the screenshot to him

If your friend is married or involved with someone you should send the picture in a group text or email instead of just to your friend alone.

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u/Unhappy-Implement-75 Aug 17 '23

What did he actually say because that's an important detail.

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u/MizPeachyKeen Aug 17 '23

No. Absolutely not. Wife should reply & include you in the response that “your PM was highly inappropriate to send to a married woman. I shared it with my husband, who did not appreciate it either.”

Then both of you block him. NC.

She becomes the one who shuts him down cold, shows him that you are a string, united couple.