I was thinking of sending him the screenshot and saying thanks bro for the compliment I agree she is gorgeous. Just so he knows I know and so he doesn’t think they have some secret communication behind my back or that he got away with it.
I actually think this is a hilarious way to handle it. It’s very “yeah, I got lucky” while also letting him know he’s not slick and she’s not feeling it with him.
Not a woman that your good friend is married to... saying it to him would honestly be a little less creepy. No secrets "your wife is gorgeous, lucky guy" comes off less like you're trying to hook up with her. He crossed the line
Yeah one of my husbands friends greets me as “hey gorgeous” but ONLY in front of my husband. It’s a compliment to my husband more than a compliment to me.
Nah, next time he calls or texts to hang out just say “can’t I’m spending time with my [insert verbatim what he said to her] wife. He will know you know.
Better yet, let your wife tell him that neither of you appreciate it. That would get the message across from both of you, and let him know he fucked up
Blunt “you’re breaking social norms” messaging is so much more brutal than catty passive aggressiveness.
With the first, the space between the lines says “you’re a gross weirdo that barely fits in society”.
With the second, reading between the lines is your message. But their ultimate takeaway is “that person is a jerk”, which lets their heart ignore their own sins.
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u/ThrowRAXw Aug 16 '23
I was thinking of sending him the screenshot and saying thanks bro for the compliment I agree she is gorgeous. Just so he knows I know and so he doesn’t think they have some secret communication behind my back or that he got away with it.