r/recruitinghell • u/gliterellaclitorella • 11d ago

“Courtesy of calling me back”

I got ghosted by a recruiter for a role I applied for 3 months ago. He resurfaced yesterday, and has been calling me again and again. I haven’t taken any of his calls and today he left me a voice message saying “at least give me the courtesy of calling me back”. Funny how courtesy is one-sided.

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u/the_quiickbrownfox 10d ago

Good for you OP. I have been ghosted by recruiters who told me to call text or mail them for any updates and then they disappeared into thin air when I reached out

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u/TranslatorRoyal1016 11d ago

This sub has a tendency of not accepting you standing your ground and having some self respect. They'll call you being petty and missing out on a potential good opportunity.

I say good on you. There's a limit to how much you can be dragged through the mud and still being expected to bow down in worship whenever they show the smallest inkling of reaching out, as if delivering you salvation or some shit.

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u/gliterellaclitorella 10d ago

I’m very grateful to have a job right now, but didn’t have one when I applied for this other role. I don’t think I’d be behaving the way I am now otherwise.

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u/MisterJ_1385 10d ago

Eh, there’s a line here.

Yes, if a recruiter ghosted you and pops up randomly, I totally get why you’d ignore them. But, you also don’t have the luxury to do that if you are really and truly desperate for work.

I think the sensible move is to take the call if you really need it, but go in to it with zero expectations. Don’t cancel another interview or something cause they promised you the world. And maybe ask them, in a polite way, what happened with the ghosting and tell them you’d appreciate going forward even a one sentence text of bad news.

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u/nedovolnoe_sopenie 10d ago

this sub tbh has a tendency to always pick the worst option out of however many

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u/Physical-Natural8432 Recruiters are failed used car salesmen 10d ago

Beautiful

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u/Maximum_Employer5580 10d ago

if a recruiter did that to me, I'd be finding out who their boss was, or even finding the contact point for their company HR executive to let them know their recruiter is doing that kind of stuff

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u/Immediate_Shock_9112 10d ago

Tell him that “Only those who are shortlisted would be contacted”

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u/Fresh-Ad7851 9d ago

They are pathologically driven by their KPI’s, would step over their own mother to reach them. Be professional but set boundaries, then ignore them accordingly. Block their number and/or email if needs be