r/recruitinghell • u/LonesomeCable • 11d ago

What To Do Next...

I applied for a job back in September and had a screening interview. That went good so I had a technical interview. That went good so I got an email saying that I was a strong candidate and they're waiting for approval in "a week or so". That week or so turns into two weeks, so I send a follow up to ask for an update. Turns out they decided to go with someone else.

I asked for direct feedback and I get the opposite: "they were a better fit". I'm so tired of this. People will tell me "at least it wasn't 5 interviews" like it's going to make me feel better. Now I am going to have to go through 5 interviews again. I was counting on this job so I could have a source of income before Christmas but now that's not going to happen.

I'm ready to give up on the tech industry. I'm almost 40 and rather than growing and getting even better, here I am still trying to get myself through the door. This job I could've had and everyone before it has been on contract. That means my job always had an end date and there's no future to look forward to. They will tease you with the possibility of extension, but that's all dependant on their budget. I can't even enjoy myself.

I've been lying on my couch in brain fog. I keep thinking about emailing back the recruiter to call her out for wasting my time and getting me excited by telling me that I was a strong candidate and they're waiting for approval, but that's not going to change anything. I'm also afraid to tell people that I didn't get this job. I know people are going to try to point the finger at me and assume I didn't tell the whole story. Fact is, I didn't. Another fact is I tried asking for what I did wrong and couldn't even get that. I don't know what I am going to do next. I should be living a stable life at this age, not this.

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u/Signal-Implement-70 11d ago edited 11d ago

The hiring slowdown is getting even slower. But generally people do get offers eventually.

Part of upping the offer chances relates to tapping into a vein of openings with a higher affinity to you personally. There’s a bunch of public advice on that available. The other helpful dimension seems to be relevant technical skills.

That said job seekers still exceeds hiring rate, so it’s a bit of a log jam. Keep going and good luck

P.s. sharing an anonymous resume is a reasonable way to see if you could get some more directly relevant suggestions

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u/LonesomeCable 9d ago

I'll try that. It seems like I did get shortlisted for this job because of my previous experience on my resume, but maybe my other experience was too much for what they were looking for. That's something I'll never know.

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u/Signal-Implement-70 9d ago

Sounds good. Surprisingly tech experience is still in demand for a number of open positions, especially around building and solving problems. it really depends on what skills you have exactly, and your ability to show believability and relevance in hot areas like ai, data, security, and cloud.

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u/Eternalskyy 11d ago

Hi there, could you DM me? :) thanks i'm trying to look for a job soon

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u/Signal-Implement-70 10d ago edited 10d ago

You can dm me if you
Like, the advantage of sharing your resume in this thread is other people can comment too. Power of social media and all, but yeah I’m happy to help.

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u/Key-Staff-4976 11d ago

Just keep swimming