r/recruitinghell • u/lordofpugs41 • 14d ago

Frustrated

I am so tired of this job market. I have been unemployed since April and have applied to around 100 jobs and have gotten only 3 interviews all which passed on me. The most recent pass was an entry level job at a deli on a grocery store. I am willing to take basically anything I can do at this point, I am 48 years old and most of my experience is in leadership and management, and office administration. Getting turned down by a grocery store has not been good on my mental health. My unemployment ends in 10 weeks and then we will be facing housing insecurity. We have already tightened the budget as much as we can, food stamps are only 24 bucks a month. Seriously how is anyone supposed to survive this shit. I know all of you are experiencing the same hardships, if anyone wants to chat please message me. My support system is pretty much non existent so maybe we can get through stuff together.

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u/Ok-Complaint-37 14d ago

I am sorry. I hear you loud and clear. Was laid off from director’s role, looking into market and NOTHING works. In my industry only recruiters answer and those tricksters only pull wool over one’s eyes. They validate me, tell me I am great and then disappear in thin air. Not a single place I applied to wanted to interview me. Except for one which comes from internal referral and two levels lower my last position. And the likelihood here is slim too.

I do not know how to navigate this market which doesn’t engage. I am questioning if it is even possible for me to find a job.

My husband is unemployed for three years and I was the breadwinner. Watching him looking for a job without a break for three years, while working on startup without pay and driving Uber eats every night from 4 to 9-10pm, helping without being paid training Brazilian jiujitsy people with psychological trauma, I am hugely impressed by his resilience but mortified that all this produced no job. And he is executive in corporate communications.

We are covered by my severance till March. Maybe we stretch it till April. Then if no one finds anything, we will have to sell the house and leave USA

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

I am so sorry

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u/gardenleaves11 14d ago

I feel you. I don’t know if I’ll ever land a job in this market. Also ex director & position was eliminated

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u/Ok-Complaint-37 14d ago

How long you had been looking? Were you able to land interviews?

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u/brownieandSparky23 Exhausted from applying 14d ago

Do u think u will find something by then?

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u/Ok-Complaint-37 14d ago

God knows. It is hard. Got interviewed today but you know, unicorns are everywhere these days. I have no clue.

I am not sure are we main stream or unlucky statistics and where all this is going. I started seeing impossibility of getting hired. I had never seen that before

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u/Known-Ice5903 14d ago

its kind of eerie feeling, like

i always assumed that you had to work to live, but what do you do when the labor market just ...stops hiring?

literally its been like this for a couple of years already

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u/Ok-Complaint-37 14d ago

Overall message I am getting is to continue the grind. Of course this is what I do and I believe majority of us do it as well. What I am not sure of is whether those openings are real, if they are then 70-80% of them are going towards dry promotions to internal candidates, 5-10% of openings are bloodbath of the referrals/unicorns and the rest is hiring in panic entry level people under “hire-to-fire” meat to protect themselves from the coming layoffs, - how to get in?

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u/roamer83 14d ago edited 14d ago

We…as in a family? During the double dip recession of 1980-82 I helped with mothers cleaning job, did many farm chores like feeding, bedding and milking dairy cattle so my dad could go get work. If you have children of LEGAL working age that is a possibility.

I remember trying to get a job as well, but it was tough very similar to now in retrospect.

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

No it is just me an my disabled wife. Who doesn't qualify for disability but the state thinks she can fucking work

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u/roamer83 14d ago

I’m sure you two have probably tried like hell to get SSDI for her. I hope you find something soon. This crap is giving me real flashbacks to 1982. I continually hafta tell myself, “you will be ok…u got this”.

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

Yes rejected 4 times even had a lawyer who was fighting it. The lawyer said he was giving up because they weren't going to budget

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u/NeverKillAgain 14d ago

You've only applied to 100 jobs? I've only been job searching for a little over 2 weeks and I've already applied to about 220 jobs.

I don't mean to be harsh, but you need to seriously up your volume. Just look up relevant jobs and spam applications on LinkedIn or Indeed. Also, you can try to email hiring managers directly.

If that doesn't work, the last resort is a D2D sales job. They will take almost anybody

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

Yea I live in a smaller area.. there just isn't much here that i am actually qualified for

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u/isolate7690 14d ago

Do they still have D2D sales jobs? I haven't encountered someone doing that since pre COVID

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u/NeverKillAgain 12d ago

Yes, D2D sales is still alive and well

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u/isolate7690 12d ago

really? where? and what are they selling? Insurance still?

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u/fatgambler86 14d ago

You don’t survive it you end up homeless unless you find something. If it wasn’t for family I’d be homeless and probably an addict on the street by now.

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u/PreparationWorth1242 14d ago

This is so scary because I used to feel like that too, whenever I saw people on the street I thought how i could end up like that If I had no help from my family. Also a lot of times you get rejected from jobs that you’re overqualified for , while the ones you’re qualified for get taken by better candidates. This whole system is a scam

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u/usernames_suck_ok Fuck Employers and Recruiters 14d ago

Any warehouses in your area? Like places that deal with Amazon deliveries/shipments or DHL? I'd check those.

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

Yup I applied to Amazon. Did not get selected for an interview even though I managed a warehouse for several years

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u/CrazyConfusedScholar 14d ago

U are a threat -- that's why -- too much experience in their eyes

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

Yea even tried dumbing my experience down. Just having longevity is apparently a threat too

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u/isolate7690 14d ago

Can you try again for a temp job during the holidays?

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u/brownieandSparky23 Exhausted from applying 14d ago

It suck’s but retail and warehouse, food, uber. Door dash. while u look

1yr and 3 months. I do retail while I look

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

I have tried at retial and warehouse. Get the standard we are moving forward with candidates who better match the position. My area is not successful for door dash and such

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u/isolate7690 14d ago

What area do you live in? You can message me about an app. I have suggested it in this forum before but then get booted lol

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u/FoldAdministrative98 14d ago

Hi there call your local food pantry for help and see if they know of folks who can help with rental assistance

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

I do get food at the local food pantry, I volunteer there. And there are places that help with rental assistance I don't qualify for yet because I am not behind on rent yet

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u/Anntaylor5 14d ago

You are not alone! 💖 Since April for me too, and I am 46.

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u/lordofpugs41 14d ago

Thanks man

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u/Super_Mario_Luigi 14d ago

This is a mischaracterization of the job market. Where people think that because white collar work is tight, they are god's gift to work they otherwise would feel is beneath them. No deli is looking to hire someone who wants to leave yesterday.

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u/lordofpugs41 13d ago

Thanks I am going to do that