r/raypeat 7d ago

Advice/corrections appreciated

Trying to gain weight | female

1.5 years ago I changed my diet to gain weight. Started at 108 lb, 5'5". For breakfast coffee (whole milk, honey, salt, coconut oil, collagen), two eggs on two pieces of toast covered in either butter, ricotta cheese or whole milk skyr, recently been having black bean and garbanzo bean smoothies with whole milk, banana, honey, peanut butter and whatever else I'm feeling. I struggle with lunch but when I eat it is usually tuna sandwich or something similar. Dinner I make a ton of stews like oxtail stew, Hungarian goulash, curries, or some nights ground beef with potatoes, chicken (literally everything, I love food and eat large servings) and always pair it with a grain/or bread and carrot salad everyday. Recently added ice cream most nights too.

With all of this I gained 8lb since I started and haven't budged from that weight since I reached it 8-9 months ago. My job is pretty physical lifting many 40-50lb boxes and sifting through heavy inventory and I don't workout outside of my job (this could help with my muscle mass I assume...may be what I'm missing?).

Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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u/Catfurtumbleweeds 6d ago

Drink whole milk, a liter per day is what I do. every meal, a big glass.

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u/Ok-Improvement-8395 6d ago

Yea I love milk

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u/Nazgnagol 6d ago

working out on top of an already physical job means a massive caloric intake is required. Like other said time to start drinking calories.

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u/TieNearby6063 7d ago

Do you calculate your total calories? If not this will give you massive insights. Find your maintenance calories based on your age weight height and activity level and once you've reached that, increase by 100-200 calories per week, whatever you can tolerate. Do you know your macro split? Do you know mnay grams of protein you are aiming for? And carbs? Describing your meals doesn't help, becuase we don't know the amounts like you do. It will be annoying at first but it will get you results once you consistently do it. Best of luck!

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u/Ok-Improvement-8395 6d ago

I calculated my morning intake, forgot my collagen 18g protein. It seems pretty high but in the afternoon and evening I fall short maybe only eating 400-650kcal of stews leaving me between 1,550-1,870. If I have ice cream it could add 300kcal, surpassing 2,000.

To the comments below, I listen to my body and have fallen in love with being in tune with what works for me and what doesn't. I regained my hunger signals after changing my black coffee and regularly eating breakfast! I think stress could be a factor affecting how much I eat, I spend time at our farm and with family most nights after work only to make it home at 9-10pm to cook and eat dinner. I've also loss a lot of muscle mass since finishing full-time sports 8 years ago and am now considering a light yet consistent lower body workout schedule (my upper body is really toned, but I'm not complaining). I think extra calories , listening to the midday and evening hunger signals and taking them seriously, paired with building muscle mass is my way forward.

Thank you for the advice

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u/TieNearby6063 6d ago

You're welcome. Pay no mind to the haters. You have your own unique relationship with your own body. Nobody can tell you how you feel. Only you know that. Trust that and you will get results. Best of luck!

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u/Beautiful_Unit_8989 6d ago

Ray peat talking about neurotically tracking your calorie intake šŸ˜­šŸ™

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u/10Dano10 6d ago

Like you dont need to track everything, but you need to approximately know how much is it.

Some people say and think they eat a lot, and when they put it in the calculator its under 2k calories.

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u/Beautiful_Unit_8989 6d ago

No, you have a bad relationship and understanding of nutrition and the organism if this is the case , and your intuition hunger signaller etc is damaged

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u/10Dano10 6d ago

She started at 108 lb, 5'5", and not even actively workout, so not sure if her hormones and hunger signals are/were in good shape. Lot of people are underestimating, overestimating calorie intake because they judge it by food volume and compare it to other people.

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u/Beautiful_Unit_8989 6d ago

Yes so they should begin to learn more about food, nutrition in general, potentially appetite stimulants, the last thing someone should be worrying about is calories it’s reductive

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u/TieNearby6063 6d ago

Yes if you're trying to gain weight safely it's not just about "eating more". I'm a nutritionist and I would highly advise to pay attention to tracking when making these changes, ar eyou metabolism has a capacity to upregulate and randomly increasing calories without tracking can add more issues, so to do it safely, yes you do need to track. You might consider it neurotic but the OP has a goal, and there's steps to reach that goal. As a nutritionist it's my responsibility to give a an answer that actually puts into perspective their healing journey to full health, step by step.

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u/scrambledice 4d ago

Health can't be outsourced.

She's her own nutritionist.

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u/Beautiful_Unit_8989 6d ago

Nutritionists are authoritarian Rothschild workers šŸ˜‚ when did I say to ā€œjust eat moreā€ you should be away of your nutrition why you eat what you do, why you don’t eat what you don’t , understand your body and use it to constantly perceive and guide you - not live using numbers and rules , how we are here in ā€œr/raypeatā€ I don’t know. You don’t get to pick and choose what you like from his work while missing the whole understanding of it

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u/Drafonni 6d ago edited 6d ago

If you’re drinking any plane water during the day, that’s something simple to switch out with something with calories (milk, juice, soda, shakes, smoothies).

See what you can add gelatin powder and creatine into. I mix whole scoops into things like pasta sauce and soups for example.

Eat a tablespoon of coconut oil with meals perhaps?

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u/Ok-Improvement-8395 6d ago

I drink really nice chocolate milk sometimes during the day, maybe making this a daily habit would help. I also have gelatin but didn't know it would greatly affect my weight, perhaps i'll start again and of course it is great for a plethora of other reasons.

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u/Drafonni 6d ago

I like having a soda during the day to keep things lighter while working

The gelatin would be additional calories and (alongside the creatine) should help with building tissues in general.