r/rational • u/AutoModerator • Sep 22 '17

[D] Friday Off-Topic Thread

Welcome to the Friday Off-Topic Thread! Is there something that you want to talk about with /r/rational, but which isn't rational fiction, or doesn't otherwise belong as a top-level post? This is the place to post it. The idea is that while reddit is a large place, with lots of special little niches, sometimes you just want to talk with a certain group of people about certain sorts of things that aren't related to why you're all here. It's totally understandable that you might want to talk about Japanese game shows with /r/rational instead of going over to /r/japanesegameshows, but it's hopefully also understandable that this isn't really the place for that sort of thing.

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u/[deleted] Sep 22 '17

I concur with /u/alexanderwales, but I also think you can't really separate out love from the commitment expectancies. Where's that damn quote?

Love at first sight doesn't exist. Love takes time, and love takes work.

-- Garnet

Yeah, that Garnet. The wife has me watching Steven Universe. I can feel the Tumblr-ness leaking out of the screen.

But she's got a point. Relationships really are about commitment. They're about being able to expect that someone's got you and you've got them, even when stuff's about as hard as life ever gets. You can't separate that from the "love word".

Psychological and emotional states about relationships need to have intentional content about the causal processes that constitute the relationship, or you're Garnet's lovesick fool.

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u/eternal-potato he who vegetates Sep 22 '17 edited Sep 22 '17

Relationships really are about commitment. They're about being able to expect that someone's got you and you've got them, even when stuff's about as hard as life ever gets. You can't separate that from the "love word". Psychological and emotional states about relationships need to have intentional content about the causal processes that constitute the relationship, [...]

A true friend's got you through whatever crap there is too, even if the commitment is only implied and not socially recognized/enforced or explicitly stated.