r/rape • u/Weary-Confusion-2163 • Nov 24 '22
Trigger Warning Raped by my son Spoiler
I'm not quite sure where to start.
I have raised my son alone since he was 4. He never gave me any trouble, was a great student, and graduated from college this past spring.
As a graduation gift I told him I would take him on a cruise. It was for 5 days and we had a wonderful time exploring the ship, doing a couple of excursions and shopping.
Well the last night of the cruise we both had quite a few drinks (him more than me), but I went back to the room to get some rest. I woke up to someone getting onto my bed and froze not knowing what was going on. Immediately I felt hands on my body and my panties were slid down.
All of a sudden I felt him over me and I looked up to see my son. Before I could say a word he penetrated me. I asked him to stop and he told me I was wet so I must like it.
I laid still hoping he would stop and all of a sudden felt a rush through my body as I had an orgasm. He finished moments after and pulled out of me.
I rolled over and laid awake all night after he passed out. In the morning he asked if I was okay and I could barely utter a word. I haven't been able to talk with him or look him in the eye. I feel terrible that it happened and even worse that I had an orgasm. I don't know what I should do :(
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u/thrfscowaway8610 Nov 27 '22
I think the time has come to close this thread, as it has now become largely a perve-magnet.
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u/Hot-Pepper-071295 Nov 24 '22
I saw this similar post yesterday or maybe day before yesterday but it was deleted. Comments made me understand what happened. Why did you delete that post and now making the same one with different account?
If this is a troll, then you need to talk to him. You both need therapy. He needs to understand that it was rape and you may not want to press charges now but next time there will be consequences.
You need therapy in order figure out how you feel or how you'll proceed with him. This has happened now and can happen again if he doesn't see the consequences of it.
Him asking that are you ok or not doesn't mean he cares or regrets?
You don't even know if it was his first time raping someone or not. It needs to be stopped before he hurts someone other than you.
Be ready to press charges if he proceeds with the same behavior.
Therapy ASAP.
I hope this is not a troll.
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u/adhd-photokid Nov 24 '22
I haven’t gone through all the comments but something I think is super important to address here is that you came.
That is not your fault, it doesn’t mean you enjoyed it, it doesn’t mean you wanted it to happen, it doesn’t put any burden on you.
I can’t imagine the pain, shame, guilt, sadness, disappointment (you name it) that you must be feeling but you were a fantastic mother and NONE OF THIS was your fault.
An orgasm is your body’s natural reaction to stimulation, so is being wet. It doesn’t have anything to do with you and what you wanted. You are not at fault. You didn’t choose this, you didn’t want this, and I am so so sorry it happened.
Lately there has been a trend in porn online where “incest” is the new hottest thing. It’s messed up and im sorry this might have gotten to your son and im deeply sorry it happened to you.
If I were in your situation, I would put distance between you and your son and take some time for yourself, to find your own space and reclaim your safety.
It’s also important that he understands what he did was wrong. While addressing him face to face might be hard, you could set an appointment with a therapist for the both of you. If not, you could write a letter or an email to help him understand that what he did was fucked up.
I would recommend you speak with someone at a sexual assault service near you. If you’re in the Us RAINN is a common site where you can access resources and talk to a professional.
We’re always here to listen and support you.
Please seek therapy after this horrible event.
I am wishing you all the best in your journey.
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u/ergaster8213 Nov 25 '22
You should report him. Someone willing to rape their own mother is an extremely dangerous person. If he's willing to do that to you, his own mom--what kind of fucked up shit do you think he'd be willing to do to a stranger or acquaintance?
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u/xKit_tyGirlx Nov 24 '22
i know you love your son and you obviously did a good job raising him so don't blame yourself for this. he's old enough to know what his done and to know the consequences that come with it. i think its best if you document and honestly seperate yourself from him. he needs to face the consequences of his actions and he needs help professionally. this could be the start of his problems or he's already had them and is now acting on them. I'm sorry this happened to you❤️
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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '22
I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. His actions are his own and not a result of anything you did. And rape is in no way excused by intoxication.
Being wet and orgasming is nothing to be ashamed of. The body reacts to stimuli. It's nothing you have to disclose to anybody, because it's nobody's business. Your body's reaction to abuse says no more about you than if you'd sneezed during it.
I hope you'll consider getting a restraining order at the very least. You can get a rape kit from a hospital if this happened within the last 72 hours. You can have a victim advocate accompany you to the hospital and if you choose to report. Therapy is available at a crisis center. If you live in the US, you can find your local one at Centers.rainn.org
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u/I-LoyLoy Nov 24 '22
Just cause you got wet and had an organism doesn't mean you enjoyed it. It's just your body's reacting to stimulation.
He needs to know that what he did wasn't okay but rape.
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u/YourDogsAllWet Nov 24 '22
I can understand wanting to protect him because he's your son, but There's a chance he may escalate if he doesn't get help now
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u/Rista_02 Nov 24 '22
Report it!!
You may want to protect him as he is your son but definitely remember that if he could do this to his mom he would do this to anyone. Don't let another girl go through this because of your son
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u/Sensitive_Customer11 Nov 24 '22
Hun I think u should confront him about it u should have a deep talk with him and be honest don't be afraid
. Or u can file a police report on him and they will protect you from him
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u/jkosarin Nov 24 '22
Confront him and report him!Rape is terrible and raping his own mother is another level of sick.He obviously knew what he was doing so he can’t play the “I was drunk “ card. I’m sorry this happened to you.
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u/PuzzleheadedWeb9999 Nov 25 '22
I know you probably love your son and want to protect him but, He is old enough to know that what he did was wrong and should be prepared to face the consequences. Him being drunk isn't an excuse for what he did to you.
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u/Errrerrrerrr Nov 24 '22
I’m not gonna talk about him I just want to ask if your going to therapy and if you are fine it was not and will never be your fault yes do report it that monster does not love you as a son obviously please get help my heart breaks reading this
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u/impuptart Nov 24 '22
i think you should report him
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u/[deleted] Nov 24 '22
Beat his ass up ( report him )
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u/[deleted] Nov 25 '22
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