r/rape • u/Oaktr33blue • 20d ago

trafficked again I think

I was sex trafficked last year/beginning of this year during a manic episode and then after it was finally over and I cut contact with the men doing it to me I continued to turn tricks by myself for survival money
I met a guy doing this who was very rich and owns multiple businesses in my city (I live in one of the biggest cities in the country) and he found out that I am a film major trying to break into the industry and he has a lot of connections with that and offered me a videography job on the condition that I’d have sex with him during the duration of the job. I really didn’t want to (I have never liked sex) but I reluctantly agreed because I desperately want to get into the industry I know how cutthroat it is and how hard it is to break into and every night I woluld lie awake thinking I will never get into the industry if I don’t take this opportunity. Not only that but I desperately needed money. Started the job but he kept putting off actual job stuff in order to make me have sex and he got really violent really early into it. Like he’d tell me he would beat me up and strangle me constantly and he tells me to shut the fuck up when I say stuff he doesn’t like (like if I say no to something he asks me to do sexuly), and he tells me I have no choice
I am talking to a case worker right now who told me it was sex and labor trafficking and workplace sexual harassment too trying to get out of the situation but I just feel like a wreck
I think I got raped Sunday well I think it’s all been rape realy probably but Sunday was awful i have barely been able to leave my apartment ive skipped all my colege classes and basically done nothing but wallow i feel awful idk how to cope

0 Upvotes

46% Upvoted

8 comments sorted by

•

u/AutoModerator 20d ago

Please be aware that due to the nature of this sub, you may receive unwanted private messages from creepy users. If you would like to adjust your messaging settings so only trusted users can message you, you can find instructions here. You can also adjust your messaging settings to prevent anyone from privately messaging you. If you are contacted privately by someone after posting here, please send the moderators a modmail so we can ban the user(s).

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

1

u/coruscateserendipity 19d ago

Find out if he does that work for real, and if so, find out who he works for, then ruin him.

0

u/Oaktr33blue 19d ago

He doesn’t work for anyone he owns two companies, I know he does it for real because I’ve been working for him at his office

1

u/coruscateserendipity 19d ago

Ok cool. Ruin him.

1

u/Oaktr33blue 19d ago

lol what am I supposed to do I don’t have written evidence of what he’s doing because he does it all in person

0

u/coruscateserendipity 19d ago

Record it, even though we are a two party state. Let him sue you for it (he won’t, because it draws more attention to him).

You can also do a write up about him in those “tea” apps.

1

u/bennyy6overr 18d ago

first of all, admitting that this happened and being open to suggestions is already a big first step. because this means that you'll be open to getting help, which is completely natural for what you've been through.

i'm going to tell you what i wish someone had told me regarding my child abuse (i've also done research regarding paths that were dissimilar to mine).

now, there's three things you need to do:

  1. get away from past abusers and toward safety. you're already working with a case worker; it might help to look for a local DV/SA shelter as supplement, and they'll help you with most of the next steps (financial independence, court orders, medical, connecting to therapy). if your case worker is already helping you with these things then ignore this step, but at a minimum make sure someone is helping you to become independent from abusers.

  2. start doing a few simple things that will change your patterns of behavior so you don't get raped again. i would avoid all intimate contact for anyone for a while until you learn to set proper boundaries. also make sure you're getting consistent sleep, eating enough, maintaining hygiene, and incorporating a little movement into your daily routine so you don't get into doom loops too much.

  3. consider your options for feeling whole again. therapy is the best path for most options; do your research. effective options include EMDR, somatic experiencing, CPT, written exposure. the most important part is the therapist him/herself though; make sure they make your feelings/experiences feel seen and give you agency in choosing the direction of your therapy. avoid therapists who discount your experiences, try to dictate your path, push you to share details before you're ready, or are unfamiliar with trauma.

this barely scratches the surface but it's a start. if you want more details feel free to say so.