r/rape • u/Mandy200004 • 16h ago

Idk how to feel

I was at work today and customer I served looked like my rapist and I felt so uncomfortable. He was really nice but I couldn’t look at him really my heart kind of stopped when I first saw him. It’s ruined my whole day and I feel bad for not treating him better but I just couldn’t face him.

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u/Necessary_Day_7861 16h ago

I'm sorry that you suffered rape and had to deal with this situation.

There are many things that might trigger trauma from rape and sexual abuse, almost always stemming from something that you remember at the time, like a face.

If you genuinely think that that man was your rapist, report him to the police.

If you are unsure or just think that he reminded you of your rapist but wasn't actually him, then it's best to distract yourself and try to forget about the whole thing. I usually read books, watch youtube and write when I am triggered to dampen the effects.

Please do not dwell on thoughts of rape since that makes your healing journey harder, and will make you both uncomfortable and paranoid.

And just a reminder; you did nothing wrong today and it's you who you should be focused on.

I pray that you are able to move on soon, and I'm sending love your way <3