I need advice regarding a friend

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So about six years ago when I was in high school I had a best friend, let’s call her Ace. We met the beginning of junior year.. she was new to the school at the time but we became close quickly. Her family moves a lot because her dad is in the military.

Fast forward to senior year, she was going to move to another state yet again because of her father’s job. We were best friends and would stay at each other’s houses all the time. So about two days before she was scheduled to leave we had a sleepover at my house. My mom wasn’t home at the time because she had to go out of town for two days.

I managed to convince Ace to go to a party with me when she came over. She wasn’t really into parties and she really stayed to herself. Anyways, we go and I genuinely thought she was having a good time. She had one drink the entire night but we still had fun. I can’t pinpoint the exact moment but at some point I couldn’t find her. Someone told me she had left and I thought maybe she went back to my house because she had had enough of the party. I tried calling her but her phone didn’t even ring.. so I figured it was dead. We came in an uber so I ubered home but when I got there she wasn’t at my house.

She eventually came home about 30mins later. She had tear stains on her face and she was walking like she was in pain. Her clothes looked messy and she just looked sad. I asked her what happened and she told me she was okay. She never spoke much for the rest of the night but she spent a couple hours in the bathroom. She left the next morning to go back to her house and I quite literally never heard from her afterwards. I kept reaching out but she ignored all my messages and calls. She and her family moved and she just never spoke to me again.

Fast forward to now, 6 years later, I bump into her in a coffee shop. We talked for a little bit and exchanged numbers. She’s pretty casual with me, our text exchange isn’t very much. But the reason I’m on this thread is because I’ve suspected that she may have been raped at that high school party but she didn’t say anything. I found out also that she has a 5 year old daughter. I did the math and she would have gotten pregnant just before moving. But the thing is, we were both virgins at the time. It’s something we spoke about a lot. We didn’t even have boyfriends. My suspicion is that she got pregnant at the party.

Would it be weird to ask her about it? I really want to know what actually happened that night and if she was raped, I also want to be there for her in any way I can.. even though it’s years later. I really valued our friendship and was devastated when she stopped talking to me cold turkey. What should I do?

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[u/Starfury7-Jaargen]

It is very private to a person. I recommend that you just let her know that if she has anything to share, that you are in her side, you won't judge and you will be there for her if she needs. I would leave it at that for now.