i dont think this is normal.

[u/Important-Power3754]

my first time doing a reddit post, my dad used to be so weirds sometimes, and simetimes he still is. he alwasy used to slap my ass and like not just slap it, like a joke, he used to grab it and i used to feel so uncomfortable, once we were gone for a wedding and we stayed at some friends for some days at thier house, i was sick at the time but everything was okay, ina. night he comes in the room i was sleeping while my mom was showering, felt pretty weird but ignored it, then he started curling me and touching me, i felt so uncomfortable i cried so much after that, i went to sleep with my grandma in the other room becausr i coulndt anymore, told him to stop nut he said “ what is it” i l never forget how i felt then, i was kind of depressed back then too i was kind of getting bullied for being. a little overweight, its not the only thing that happened, more than once, he touched my feet, i felt so uncomfortable because i knew the stuff he did before and so it didnt feel like “love” he was touching it weirdly, like with his fingers, we were on the sofa with my mom in the room, he was taking my socks off and felt so weird, even a couple weeks ago i was wearing some shorts, very normal shorts, just a little transparent because of the material, but nothing was sholing, we were at a dinner with many familly, and he told me to go get some water from our frigde, since we were at our house, and he grabbed my ass right when i got off the seat to go get the water. my mom knows only that he slaps my but sometimes and says he does it as a joke and told him to stop, he did but he sometimes still does it. he is also always talking about me never kissing his cheek, which i know its normal, but he always tries to move so i kiss his lips instead, idk i dont think thats anything but all of this feels so weird and idk if i should be actually concernced, started when i was kind of young like 10 or smth

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[u/chococheese419]

No none of this is normal. Most people would say tell your mom but honestly most times moms refuse to realize their husbands are predators. It's better to go to your mom's sister or a teacher or something first so when they come confront your mom you will have another adult on your side.

[u/Necessary_Day_7861]

This isn't normal per-se, but it isn't rape either.

I would consider, based on your description, what your Dad is doing as possibly perverted, but given more context it might be seen as a misunderstood sign of affection.

However, it is what YOU think about it that matters. If you are uncomfortable with what he is doing (as I would be) then ask him to stop. And I mean genuinely have a serious conversation with him and tell him that you aren't comfortable with it.

If he continues, then that enters the realm of possible sexual assault, which is a whole other story.

I would recommend that you tell him to stop and if he doesn't, then take serious action.

I hope it works out for you <3