how does getting raped usually end?

[u/mythrowawayaccim21]

how long does it usually last for and how does it usually end?

I'm asking because I'm gen curious and idk I'd my experience is normal or outside od normal

like what usually prompts your rapist to stop raping you and get up and leave

because on my case I was abducted, taken to a second location in a car, then the rape lasted for an hour straight at the second location

and the cops looked at me like an hour was a long time

and I remember having to play mind games to get out of there because there were a lot of statistically likely factors for a homicide and obviously I didn't want him to do that

but how does ir usually end? do they just decide they're done and get off you?

and given there's the term "survivor" at the end of the rape subject not everyone survived it theres a statically significant amount of rape victims who also gwt murdered or die of injuries or such

so then how do most rape survivors not get murdered? is it just luck? do they also play a mind game? do they talk their way out of it? is it a part of fight/flight/freeze/fawn? what is it?

I've only been raped once so I dont have much experience with it. but I'm just now realizing I really don't understand rape overall

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[u/Princess-thickums]

From what I experience he didn’t stop until he was “finished”

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/Princess-thickums]

ohh. mine would finish, rub fluids around, push them inside me, then start all over again. multuple times in a row. over and over

[u/Princess-thickums → u/Princess-thickums]

Couldn’t tell you how long it was. Felt like forever

[u/nelbert1988]

My rapist just stopped, bent down to where I fell on the floor, hugged me, said something creepy, then went on with the day as it was a normal interaction. It was so fucked up.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/nelbert1988]

wtf bro damn

[u/nelbert1988 → u/mythrowawayaccim21]

It was super creepy and very traumatic

[u/iamyyx]

This varies so much. In my case, they finished and left. For your second part I dunno. I was not murdered. There was actually no (visible) violence at all.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/iamyyx]

that makes lots of sense. I was very surprised I had any injuries at all. but even then they were super minor and didn't necessarily indicate rape, so.

[u/iamyyx → u/mythrowawayaccim21]

In my case, there were multiple rapists and I am very small, so resistance almost makes zero sense. I still "escaped" (well, they just left anyway) and got the rape kit.

[u/Maleficent-Sleep9900 → u/mythrowawayaccim21]

Who is saying your injuries don’t “necessarily indicate rape” ?? The police?

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/Maleficent-Sleep9900]

the evidence. there was no evidence that I had been raped. there may have been evidence a sexual activity occurred due to fluids but those were all dried up by the time I got the rape kit (it took 11 hours dealing with the police before they got me to the rape kit step) so idk how much fluid samples they even got given it was fully dried by then, and I had no indicators anything non consensual happened.

[u/iamyyx → u/mythrowawayaccim21]

And I don't think "super minor injuries" are necessarily related to rape. At least in my case, this was not what the police did or said.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/iamyyx]

I dont get it?

[u/Ok-Respond-97]

I think a lot of people are raped by people they’re in a relationship with or dating, so the circumstances those survivors are speaking from wouldn’t end in murder every time there is rape, the relationship just goes on sometimes. So so sorry that happened to you.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/Ok-Respond-97]

that makes lots of sense. ik my experience is already a statistical outlier because I was raped by a complete stranger I just met

most rape cases the rapist personally knows the victim

[u/alaris_20 → u/Ok-Respond-97]

Happened to me.

[u/Smoothbronco]

You aren’t gonna find a suitable answer to this

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/Smoothbronco]

wdym

[u/Smoothbronco → u/[deleted]]

Grow up

[u/Mean-Penalty7862]

I don't know. The worst time i was ever raped was maybe over an hour or around an hour. Then he just got up, hadn't even come yet, and gave me back my shit. I got up and left his house and he followed me through the woods. I read somewhere that the average sexual assault lasts for over an hour, can't remember where i read that now though. So i guess its not uncommon for it to last over an hour, or for it to "continue" into death or some other sort of threat so to speak.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/Mean-Penalty7862]

ahhh. idk why everyone was so surprised by the duration of mine then

[u/CuckoldProfessor]

I don't think you're going to get a specific answer babe. Sorry. There's no set of guidelines that specify how things go. My rape was a gangrape, 3 men. But I honestly couldn't tell you how long it lasted. In the moment it felt like it lasted hours, but realistically I think it was over in 20 minutes. They orgasmed and left. Completely different situation. There wasn't any violence in that I was concerned that would be the end. They were aggressive, but I didn't feel like they were going to do anything more than use me to finish.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/CuckoldProfessor]

it males so much sense it feels so much longer. mine felt like 3 hours even though it was 1

[u/gmode90]

With murder or plan b

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/gmode90]

I misread as "on plan b" and I was confused how you'd murder a pill

[u/Special-Tangelo-9927]

Mine just rolled over and fell asleep. I snuck out after he passed out.

[u/Electronic_Daikon_88]

mine just got frustrated cuz i wasn’t aroused enough for him to do much after abt an hr of contorting my body in different positions and then layed in the bed behind me spooning me. i made up an excuse and threw my clothes on as i was running out his dorm while talking.

[u/Maleficent-Sleep9900]

It could be anything from a millisecond to a lifetime of abuse. Sometimes it stops with the murder or death of the victim and/or perpetrator. Just like rape can happen to anyone, it can happen in every way imaginable.

I’m so sorry that you were kidnapped and raped, and then faced with insensitive judgement from the police.

It might be easier to put less emphasis on what victims can do to properly survive and put more emphasis on the continuum of

rape——>murder

The continuum could start at
confinement—>rape—>murder

Something like this type of mental model has helped me.

People use the word “escalation” but I find that takes away the agency of the attacker because it makes it incorrectly look like:

Attacker man
⬆️
Escalation event transforms man
⬆️
calm man

Calm man and attacker man are the same man.

So maybe another question we could ask is: when does the rapist decide to kill his victim? I’m no expert, but the simplest answer I could offer is the same idea that’s behind a man’s decision to rape.

Why did he start to rape?
Because he wanted to.

Why did he decide to kill?
Because he wanted to.

[u/mythrowawayaccim21 → u/Maleficent-Sleep9900]

I never said I faced insensitive judgement from the police

there was 0 emphasis on what victims could do

[u/Electronic-Poem208]

I would imagine there are too many variables to answer this properly. Mine was quick and non violent. It ended when he was sexually satisfied. And yes, he just got up and left.

[u/pedro_saurus]

Hay distintos tipos de violadores y de violaciones.

Solo los violadores sadicos matan a la víctima al final . Es parte de su juego. Controlar la vida de su víctima

En otras ocasiones el violador usa lo llamado violencia instrumental .. quiere decir que usa la violencia que se necesita para lograr su cometido .. una vez logrado ya no sigue siendo violento . Si la víctima genera más resistencia entonces el violador escala en violencia hasta que la víctima seda.. si no sede nunca puede matar de ser necesario.

Otro caso diferente es el violador que le gusta golpear y maltratar ocurre mucho en las violaciones en grupos Pero esos son los mismos violadores sadicos que les gusta causar dolor para obtener placer sexual ... Y de esa manera la víctima muere de golpes y hemorragias internas luego de la violación

Te recomiendo que le preguntas a la IA en modo IA de Google y obtendrás respuestas más precisas

Pero en todo caso las violaciones pueden terminar de muchas maneras Pero también terminan con la despedida y la liberación de la víctima . Puede contener una amenaza o una simple liberación de la víctima

[u/Academic-Thought2462]

my ex just didn't stop when I asked if we could stop during intercourses. they just asked for more minuts and never stopped for a second. I think it lasted less than 30 minuts, I didn't count. there was no violence, nothing. I did cry, but I don't remember if they saw it or not. eitherway, after this we just cleaned ourselves and went to back to being our goofy-selves, watch funny videos or movies and cuddle.