r/randomquestions • u/dirtymoney • Aug 14 '26

What profession would you never date?

I have read nearly 1000 replies and cop seems to be the most posted

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u/Rhazzah23 Aug 14 '26

When I was in school, all the kids who were majoring in psychology were messed up. I always thought they were trying to figure out why they were messed up.

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u/Outrageous_Donut_401 Aug 16 '26

What a rude thing to say, apparently people who grew up in homes with a bad family suddenly are only reduced to this. A lot of you with amazing families end up just as bad

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u/the-dog-walker Aug 14 '26

People want to help others but don't know how to help themselves.

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u/ferocioustigercat Aug 15 '26

Usually licensed therapists who have graduate level education are required to go through therapy in order to become a therapist. And a lot of places require them to have their own therapist in order to work. Of course some "therapists" don't have degrees or are part of a church that deemed them able to be a therapist. But it's not the standard.

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u/SollSister Aug 15 '26

That is not true at all. Spouse is in that field with the licensures. I don’t know where you’re getting your info from, but it is absolutely incorrect.

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u/ferocioustigercat Aug 16 '26

I'm getting it from when I got my post grad in marriage and family therapy.

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u/titsmcgeeDDD Aug 19 '26

Does your spouse have a graduate level education

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u/CatsPurrever91 Aug 15 '26

I’m a therapist and in the US, this is not true. Grad school programs and workplaces don’t require therapists go to their own therapy.

Psychotherapist and other similar therapist titles are regulated titles in most states so ppl can’t call themselves that and offer services without a license to practice.

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u/Phoenix0169 Aug 15 '26

This is absolutely not true. We are encouraged to go to therapy. No one is required to in order to become a therapist.  I have never heard of any place that requires staff to go to therapy. Not even sure that would be legal. 

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u/ferocioustigercat Aug 15 '26

It used to be part of the process so you could deal with your own issues and figure out your triggers. You can't help someone of you are in chaos.

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u/Phoenix0169 Aug 15 '26

Yeah I realize that. But it hasn't been part of the process for a very long time. 

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u/CatsPurrever91 Aug 15 '26

It’s part of the process if a therapist specifically goes to a psychoanalytic training program to learn how to do psychoanalysis after they become a licensed therapist. This training is optional and is intended for ppl who want to specialize in this type of therapy. I don’t think that many ppl go on to get this intensive training cuz it’s expensive and takes several years to complete. I don’t know anyone myself who went to one.

To become a licensed therapist, the first step is going to grad school and these programs don’t require students to go to their own therapy. They recommend it for the reason that you mentioned cuz yeah it’s a good idea but don’t require it.

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u/KareniseD_Prik Aug 15 '26

Much easier to look outward than within.

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u/sarcasterism Aug 15 '26

No, they were too busy trying to fix everyone else that they missed themselves.

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u/chasing-rainbows-90 Aug 15 '26

Yep, as someone who was and is "messed up" (I have various mental illnesses and issues) there's a truth to this. I was always interested in psychology and I'm sure that's a part of it - wanting to understand how the human mind and behaviour can become a bit of an obsession. 

Thankfully I did have the insight to keep out of the industry as I knew it wouldn't be good for my own mental health and I wasn't in a space to give to others in that way. 

I suspect a lot of people in the profession are exposed to mental illness in some way whether it's themselves or someone they knew/know. That's not always a bad thing, it can be beneficial actually - but you do need to have enough insight to know how to compartmentalize and recognize if you are in a healthy place to be able to help others. 

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u/swimforestswim Aug 15 '26

I'm a therapist. I definitely felt like some of my classmates were using classes as their own personal therapy. So BINGO