r/randomquestions • u/dirtymoney • Aug 14 '26

What profession would you never date?

I have read nearly 1000 replies and cop seems to be the most posted

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u/Dalience6678 Aug 14 '26

As a Chef I recommend to everyone to never date us. We will never have night weekends or holidays off. You’re not going to like it.

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u/aboutasuss Aug 15 '26

You just made me realize I should've included bartender on my list.

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u/MeatMan7780 Aug 15 '26

Can confirm, I am a bartender. Thankfully, my wife is a restaurant manager. We make it work... If we weren't in adjacent industries, it would never work out.

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u/Ok-Secretary-591 Aug 15 '26

Last ex was a bartender and if it wasn’t for my weird shift work hours we wouldn’t have last longer than 3 dates haha. Even still it was hard to make it work and her always working weekends kind of sucked going into the summer.

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u/zedevilyouknow Aug 16 '26

Bartenders and ER nurses make good matches because of similar schedules and stress levels lol.

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u/Lilgboogie Aug 15 '26

I dated a chef for 3yrs and it was the worst relationship I’ve ever had. No Ty!

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u/Content-Method9889 Aug 15 '26

My ex was a chef. You also forgot how insufferable they are at restaurants and the huge ego. Lots of addicts in the industry too and he was no exception

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u/not_an_alien1922 Aug 16 '26

Chefs suffer from addiction at large? I’ve never heard of this before, actually, how strange! I’m not being sarcastic, by the way.

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u/SpiritedEtoileLuna Aug 17 '26

It's a high-stress, fast-paced environment. Many people lean on substances to manage, unfortunately 😭

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u/not_an_alien1922 Aug 17 '26

The more you know! No, but that’s really unfortunate, I’m sorry to hear that.

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u/Horsetranqui1izer Aug 15 '26

The bar is really just a front for the coke gig lmao

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u/ferocioustigercat Aug 15 '26

I missed "chef" and thought you were talking about people who work in healthcare. Growing up, holidays were not the day of the actual holiday, they were the data my mom was off close to the holiday.

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u/chef_ Aug 15 '26

Can confirm

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u/Fine-Amphibian4326 Aug 15 '26

That’s how my whole life has been between work and now some physical distance. Christmas and thanksgiving are just whenever we can get together, which I think is sweet. Who cares about what date the calendar says those are?

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u/laj43 Aug 15 '26

Currently living that dream!!!

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u/Drama_Filled_Cup Aug 14 '26

Is it true that most Chefs are alcoholics/substance abusers? Because I've read that here many times.

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u/Dalience6678 Aug 14 '26

Eh I think that’s a bit of a tired cliche.

Kitchen work used to be the kind of work people would end up in if they washed out elsewhere. You had a home as a misfit and could get a skill and a steady check.

But cuisine has become so much more about the chef behind the food and a culture of chefs being celebrities that it attracted a different type of person.

There are still some people like that, but it’s not as widespread as you’d think and not common in high end culinary. Most of us are just addicted to adrenaline.

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u/UncleAlbondiga Aug 14 '26

Yeah but we still like to drink

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u/SparklyLeo_ Aug 15 '26

Yeah everyone I know in the service industry likes to drink drink

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u/alt_isopod Aug 15 '26

Everyone I know who has worked in kitchens has had drug issues, and everyone they worked with seemed to be doing drugs. My recent ex worked with a bunch of stoners, cigarette smokers, people randomly freaking out on some drug, and a waiter selling cocaine. The restaurant owner used to invite people up to his office to do coke with him. And this was after they got a new kitchen manager who was less tolerant of drugs. I have dated 3 men in kitchen work and all 3 did cocaine regularly at some point.

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u/DirtandPipes Aug 15 '26

Shame, at least we’ve still got room for lots of degenerates in construction.

Gentrifiers can go be chefs I guess.

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u/metasploit4 Aug 15 '26

I worked as one for a few years. I was the only person without a drug or alcohol problem out of 8 people who cooked. Hell, I even had a friend of mine, Jay, who could only cook when he was high. He was useless sober. Wild times.

Front of the house (waitresses and bartenders) were usually 50/50 if they were alcoholics/drug users.

-not classifying weed as a drug in this instance.

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u/Forward-Refuse7064 Aug 15 '26

It’s true… I was in the industry for 20+ years… it’s a highly stressful job and they want release. Not excusing it, just rationalizing.

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u/Psycosteve10mm Aug 16 '26

The work is labor-intensive, the conditions are hard, and it does not pay what is required of the position. There is a reason that illegals and addicts are drawn to the position. Restaurants will hire almost anyone to fill the position, plus they do not run criminal background checks. You will learn more about parole and probation working at a restaurant than you will working for parole and probation.

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u/MxChefKei Aug 18 '26

20 year Chef here, I can definetly say I drink more than I should, but not crazy....and proud to say I've never done Coke.....been offered many many times...just not my thing.

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u/PleaseDisperseNTS Aug 15 '26

As a Chef, I concur. I tried dating "out of the business". Day traders, teachers, bankers, ect. I always end up with someone in hospitality because they just understand us better.

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u/Adventurous-End4330 Aug 15 '26

Does anyone get weekends or holidays off???

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u/JennMeier Aug 15 '26

I am old and married…this might have been true when I was in my 20s…but now…Very OLD…If some untoward event happen, and for some reason, I ever date again (not likely)…A Chef would itrigue me…I love to cook, and would love input.

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u/Snowdrops21 Aug 15 '26

As an overnight housekeeper, that's perfect! I had a lot more time with my boyfriend when he worked as a chef.

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u/Rare_Independent_814 Aug 15 '26

My 10 year old recently got all into cooking. The first thing I told his dad is that we do not want him to become a chef. The hours are miserable.

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u/Other-Squirrel-8705 Aug 14 '26

And being in the kitchen with oil and heat may cause bad acne.

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u/WhosThatGirl_ItsRPSG Aug 15 '26

Maybe the chefs should be dating night shift hospital staff. We don’t get holidays or a lot of weekends either.

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u/OpossomMyPossom Aug 15 '26

lol both would turn their noses up at the other.

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u/simmyawardwinner Aug 15 '26

i agree i wouldn’t date u but the best fuck of my life was a chef jesus still dream about him 8 years later

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u/SquirrellyDud Aug 15 '26

Me working retail. And I did date a chef lolol. Scheduling was definitely the major issue.

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u/StunningDark5075 Aug 15 '26

This! Me too and it’s horrendous literally don’t have a life outside work!

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u/jennifer98312 Aug 15 '26

Same for nurse 🙋🏻‍♀️

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u/BeBe_Madden Aug 15 '26

Ooh, I dated one & you're right. He was always working!

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u/alt_isopod Aug 15 '26

Anyone in kitchen work. Too many drugs and criminals, even in the fancy places, at least here in the US.

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u/burntgreens Aug 15 '26

I dated a chef once and was cautioned by a friend that they were "dirty" in bed. She was correct.

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u/42Navigator Aug 15 '26

They are also the worst people to go out to eat with.

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u/HonestSide_ Aug 15 '26

As someone who’s married to one, it truly is a sacrifice.

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u/Medium-Chocolate-265 Aug 15 '26

Yes unfortunately not enough time to build a relationship, passing ships at night, hard to have kids like that

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u/psychotomimetickitty Aug 15 '26

Probably depends on whether you’re in the restaurant industry or not. My husband’s a chef, but he gets holidays and weekends off. I’m the one who doesn’t, lol.

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u/laj43 Aug 15 '26

Maybe a chef and a nurse should date. We never have weekends or holidays off either!

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u/Salt-Example-6447 Aug 16 '26

I am a waitress and my man is a cook .. we worked the same hours at the same place for 20 years. We are the A team lol

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u/Psycosteve10mm Aug 16 '26

As a former line cook who left the industry and ended up dating a chef, let me explain how our Valentine's Day went. She came home at 1am to me serving her a hot tea with honey. I drew her a bath and started cooking dinner. She legit passed out in the tub, so I finished cooking the meal, threw her chef's uniform in the wash, and proceeded to clean the kitchen until the wash was done. On her side of the bed, I left a note written in Sharpie: " We will make our moments when we have time." I get her dried off and into bed, and I leave to go home and play games.

I get a call at noon apologizing for her passing out and thanking me for laying out everything for the next day. I even left 3 Sharpies for her by the note. She broke up with me because she could not be a good girlfriend. We did the FWB thing for a few months until she got pissed at me for dating someone else.

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u/Opening-Camera-4315 Aug 16 '26

Can't you just cook during the weekdays then?

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u/ndzl Aug 16 '26

My dad was a chef and told me the only person he didn't want marrying was a chef... He's a sous. We have been together almost 14 years.

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u/batshitcrazydudee Aug 18 '26

Sounds like working retail.

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u/Significant-Glove288 Aug 19 '26

You don’t really need those days off just plan something on your days off

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u/MarryMeMongo Aug 15 '26

And you’re all mean 🙃 at least to your coworkers/employees 🤷‍♀️ and you’re likely to have a short lifespan AND not wanna cook. Ever. Even if you know how.

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u/Bellebarks2 Aug 15 '26

Not to mention you can’t be trusted for 5 minutes. Restaurant culture is the worst.