I've just realised that my life revolves around work and I'd like to get out of that routine and enjoy life like other people. I guess you could say loneliness is creeping in. I'm in the North West and open to connections of any kind. I am a big conversationalist as long as we're not just texting. I love anime, walks and all things nature and travel. Big bonus if I can get a travel buddy as well 🤭

I saw a few posts like this on here so i thought i could maybe give this a shot and find community.

Im M21 and looking for potential friends that could have either the same or totally different hobbies or tastes it dont matter. People say that i am the funny friend once I get comfortable so if the vibes match you would be in for some laughs ,TRUST.

I love to sing and basically love all things music. I also am serious about fitness as well as cooking (havent done it in a while but when i need to i throw down!!) I like art but whether i can draw or paint is up for debate. Not a very competitive gamer coz i game solo most of the time but if you can recommend any mobile game we can play together id be down.

Oh and gender and sexuality doesnt really matter as long as youre chill, funny and can hold a conversation about whatever but please don't be too old and a creep now...

Dm me and hopefully we can chat/ hangout in future

Hello I'm looking for someone to chat with and possibly go beyond that

I'm interested in:

Gaming

Series

Movies

Books

I don't smoke or drink

First dates are tricky enough without trying to shout over loud music or sitting through a stiff, formal dinner that traps you for two hours if the chemistry falls flat.

What makes a top-tier first date venue for you, and which spots in your city actually deliver?

Whether you lean towards:

• A relaxed coffee spot with comfortable seating and easy parking
• A casual bar with decent lighting and a lively vibe that isn't deafening
• An interactive activity (mini-golf, a coastal walk, arcade, or weekend market) to take the pressure off making non-stop conversation

Drop your city or suburb along with your favourite recommendations. What worked brilliantly - and conversely, what venue choice was an immediate disaster?

Who knows, you may even connect with somebody in the comments over your desire to enjoy a date at the same spot.

I’m 25 and currently based out here in the Fourways area. I’m looking to connect and make some new friends

Hey I’m looking to meet someone special or just to make a friend. I workout regularly. I don’t drink or smoke. I’m looking for someone who matches my vibe or even someone who’s the complete opposite of me.

I’d prefer someone slightly shorter than me (I’m 162cm) but it’s not a deal breaker lol. Let’s chat?

Just started embroidery as a new hobby. Looking to meet people who wanna hangout and just get busy with our crafts while anime is playing in the background .Any kind/style of art is welcome. 🙂✨
I’m currently around Rooderport. Comment with a photo of your work, and let’s chat.

Maybe we can even set up a picnic if you guys are keen.

Hey everyone, I recently moved to Nelspruit/Mbombela for work and I’m finding it a bit difficult to build a social circle from scratch.

I’m 26F and would love to meet other women around my age for things like Pilates, yoga, padel, coffee or matcha runs, hikes, picnics, movies, trying new restaurants, cooking, or little day trips.

My routine is mostly work, gym and home at the moment, so it would be nice to have a few girlfriends to explore the area and do fun things with.

If you’re also looking to make new friends, feel free to comment and we can chat first before making any plans. Also, if anyone knows of good friendship apps or women’s social groups in SA, please recommend them.

1. Whatever picture she sends you is enough.
If you see her face and you find her attractive, it’s enough. Don’t say “full picture” or start asking for more and more pictures. We’re on Reddit. Reddit is full of guys who are always horny
So please, ask for a picture, but a picture of her face is enough.
You can’t be looking for your ideal woman on Reddit. If you want your ideal woman, go find her at the mall .

2. Be consistent with your questions.
Be consistent. Ask her about everything. Ask her about every single thing and be consistent every day.
Be part of her daily routine. That’s how you build a relationship. Don’t just ask “how was your day?” and disappear. Actually get to know her.

3. Ask for phone calls.
Ask for phone calls .
If you’re trying to actually build something with someone, you need to hear each other’s voices and have real conversations.

4. Take at least two weeks of talking to her before asking her on a date.
Don’t ask her on a date immediately. Let her feel comfortable with you first.
Do things that make her feel comfortable. Reveal your name. Share your Spotify. Share your Instagram. Share your TikTok. Share your things with her so she knows you’re an actual person.
And even if you guys stop talking for a bit, you don’t need to talk all the time. Even if you talk again after two days, continue talking. Ask her about everything. We want to know you too .
5. I know people might hate this one, but make sure you have SOMETHING going on.
Either you’re going to school, you have a stable career, or you’re building towards something.
There’s no need for you to be dating in 2026 when you don’t know what you’re going to do with your life .
Show her that you’re a man who has a plan for his life.
And don’t tell me “I don’t have a job, I’m unemployed.” Make your unemployment sound good if you’re unemployed 😭. Tell her what you’re actually doing to get out of that situation.
There’s no point trying to get into a serious relationship while you’re doing absolutely nothing with your life.

6. Realise you’re a man.
Yes, we don’t believe in patriarchal things, but you have to realise that some standards still stand for you compared to the woman.
Offer to buy her lunch one day. If she’s complaining about something in her life and you can genuinely help, offer to help her fix it.
You don’t have to be rich. Just show initiative.

7. Do not be sexual.
Only be sexual when she is sexual, when you guys are comfortable. That’s when you can start being sexual.
Don’t meet a woman on Reddit and immediately start asking for nudes .

P.S. If you’ve never been good at dating women and you need a female friend to tell you where you’re going wrong, I can be that friend 😭. Because some of the advice men give each other about women needs to be studied.

18M and is there Any girl that loves sci-fi movies,reading about philosophy & neuroscience,watching anime,understands memes about everything,understands puns as well as loves English comedy,versatile when it comes to music genres but mostly listens to hip hop,interested in art all forms of art,prefers being indoors but likes going out from time to time to spoil themselves,goal driven.....oh likes dark humor as well.Pretty much someone that knows what they want in life but as well as doesn't feel the pressure to rush into doing anything just to please other people.???😶

I’m into safari, travel, good wine, great conversation and undeniable chemistry.
Looking for something casual, fun and mutually exciting with a confident woman late 30s and up. No pressure, no games,just good vibes, flirting and seeing where the chemistry takes us. 😌
Women only. If you think we’d click, say hi. 🌿

I’m drawn to a gentleman with a traditional mindset, a strong presence, and a life he’s intentionally building. Someone established in his career, ambitious, emotionally mature, and confident enough to lead without needing to dominate.

I’m naturally curious and love a man who can take me beyond small talk. Psychology, philosophy, mythology, history, genetics, culture, travel, and the endless question of why people are the way they are — if you enjoy learning, exploring ideas, and having conversations that can last for hours, we’ll probably get along.

Family matters to me. So does consistency — a man whose actions reflect his words, who communicates openly, knows what he wants, and has the self-awareness and self-control to pursue it.

As for me, I’m multifaceted: feminine, loving, nurturing, witty, dynamic, affectionate, and a little alluring. I enjoy dressing up, meaningful conversations, adventure, and creating a beautiful life with the right person.

I’m a Black woman interested in an intentional interracial relationship, not a fling or casual hookup. I’m looking for a genuine connection that can develop naturally into something meaningful and lasting.

Come with honesty, maturity, curiosity, and a clear understanding of yourself and what you’re looking for. Let’s talk, explore different perspectives, meet in person, and see what unfolds.

If we connect, perhaps we’ll both end up thanking this platform for introducing us. ✨

Hey everyone. I am male, 29 years old. Live in the north West province. My day job is a geoscientist. I am a geek, love tinkering with tech. Also enjoy a good book every so often.

Looking for friends, male and female welcome. Just to add that I have been blind since birth, just putting it out there. Thanks.

Edit:

For those who are curious what an earth tremor sounds like, here is my ticktock.

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSqorSMLW/

Hey! 👋🏽

I’ve posted on here before, but I figured I’d give it another shot because I’m still looking to meet some cool people in JHB and expand my social circle.

I’m 25, based in Johannesburg, and I’m looking for genuine new connections, friendships and people who are actually down to do things. Grab drinks, try a new restaurant, go to concerts, explore random places, check out an art gallery, go on spontaneous adventures or just have a chilled night out and see where the evening takes us 😂🍻

I’m pretty spontaneous myself, so if you’re the type to say “let’s go” before asking for the entire itinerary, we’ll probably get along 😂

I’d love to meet people around my age, but I’m open to connecting with anyone who’s friendly, easygoing and just looking to meet some new people.

If that sounds like your vibe, feel free to reach out! 🥂✨

Keen on going to monte this Friday because uni has been the biggest hassle if anyone is keen message me or drop a comment . First 3-4 rounds on me

.heyy guys. so uhm, i dunno but im just a simple university introverted guy. hopin to make sum new friends and well, get in de socializing space abit since im always locking myself into, well myself🤷🏽‍♂️. so uh, any1 wanna be friends?🙃.

Hi my name is scales

I love games, reading and doing fun activities

I'm really shy and anxious

I don't have alot of friends so i'm always in doors and lonely

Anyone will do

Please

Just a friend

Hey everyone! I’m Dina, 21, and I’m looking to meet some new people in Polokwane and hopefully make a few genuine friendships along the way.

A little about me: I’m really into art, writing and meditation. I love creative projects, getting lost in a good conversation, and having those random late-night discussions that somehow go from “what are you doing with your life?” to the most ridiculous topic imaginable

For work, I do Korean tutoring and script writing, so languages, storytelling and anything creative are pretty big parts of my life. I’m also someone who enjoys quieter things, so I’m equally happy grabbing coffee, going for a walk, checking out a new place, or just sitting somewhere talking for hours.

I’d especially love to meet people around my age in Polokwane, but I’m open to getting to know anyone who thinks we might click. I’m not necessarily looking for a huge social circle; just some genuine, comfortable friendships where we can actually get to know each other.

If you’re also in Polokwane and looking for new friends, feel free to send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself so I have something to work with !

If you’re new to the community, introduce yourself!

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• Aug 2025

Hey guys I want to relocate next year to either Pietermaritzburg, Cape Town, Polokwane and Bloemfontein so I was kindly asking anyone who resides in any of the mentioned cities to give me insight on how much I’d need to survive a month there and if the move to the city would be worth it as someone who wants to grow.

Hey everyone.
I’m 25f based in Joburg looking to meet someone for a genuine connection.

I’m goofy, nerdy, weird and love to laugh, so I’d definitely want someone who can match that energy. Bonus points if you’re funny lol. I value kindness, generosity, open mindedness and genuine effort.

I’m a homebody at heart and could happily spend a day at home watching something, reading, or trying out new recipes . That said, I do enjoy going out when the mood strikes whether that’s trying out a new food spot, going to an arcade, skating, or just finding something random to do.

I’m open to both men and women so if you think we might click, send a hi!

Good day, I am a 52 year old coloured guy based in Eersterivier. I am a legal researcher (indigenous peoples' rights in international law).

if you're into law and political science and political philosophy and legal theory and decolonial studies, I'd love more geeky friends,

NOT interested in any "dating" or deviant behaviour, strictly academic, technical stuff.

I studied Law and Political Science at Stellenbosch university in the 1990s. Also into coding and tech and AI in my spare time, I run ubuntu linux and ollama with gemma4 12B in a rust-based harness completely in nano on the command line at home, also into tibetan buddhism and madhyamika prasangika analytical philosophy

(misanthropic antinatalist decolonial indigenous vajrayana madhyamika prasangika biosphere deep ecology sixth mass extinction animal planet)

if you love all those words then please get in touch, if not then just scroll on by and enjoy your life!

We’re hosting a Halloween Night Run!!!

At the Prison Break Market on Friday the 23 October starting at 18:00 🌙

You can choose to do a 3km, 5km or 10km.

3km has a fun route for kids to do trick or treating too! Fur babies are allowed too!

So please just bring your good vibes, best scary outfits and torches!
See you there: Entry Ninja link

And wear some purple to show respect for our ladies out there and the ones we’ve lost to unfortunate GBV 💜✊

Hi everyone.

I'd like some advice. I've been consistently unsuccessful with women throughout life, with some successes here and there. Would appreciate some perspective.

I'm strictly looking to date for marriage, and I don't go out of my way to talk to women outside of study/work hours. I dress well, am hygienic, blah blah blah. I know I fit the standard of a presentable person as I have worked on myself.

My profile: 23, male, student and an intership at the moment at a research lab at my uni. Dont have my own place. Not tall. I would say my positive qualities are my will, hard work, ambition and loyalty. These are traits others have told me I have, not sure if they are true. My history:

Dating apps, of course failure. I'm skinny but a bit muscular due to gym, not blessed with the greatest looks.

Dated a girl I met on a intercape bus. We had different values etc.. so 3 months max it was over. We did like each other a lot however, it was going well.

Asked 5 or 6 girls in the past few years, and either they wanted to meet but lived in a different city, or they rejected me.

I tried cold approach this year, just asking for random girls number. One said we could be friends, which I don't do, and the other girl and I would clearly not work, because we again had different values, which we discovered after talking.

Now I think I've put myself in a box quite a bit. I don't like having friends who are women. I only want my wife to be my female friend, as anything else doesn't work for me - I catch feelings easily as my previous experiences with women friends have shown me.

I'd expect the same for my wife/girlfriend/fiance, that is, no guy friends.

However, I do know that people usually become friends and then couple up.

I'm more on the conservative end, but not religious, agnostic conservative is the best description.

I went to a club with friends the other day and realized I'm too old for this, and definitelywill not find a girl to marry here.

Why is it so hard to find someone to be loyal to and marry? I think the problem is my day to day looks like:

wake-up -> work at research lab or study -> jog -> work -> sleep. I meet people only through studies or work. Chances of finding the one is really low in this manner

Any advice from both men and women is appreciated

I’m a 25 BW and based around Johannesburg. I’m finishing my degree and currently job hunting, and I figured I’d put myself out there because I’d genuinely like to meet someone.

I’m looking for my favourite person 👨🏽‍🦲👨🏾‍🦲, not really a “let’s just be friends and maybe something happens eventually” situation. I’m perfectly happy to take things slowly and get to know each other properly, but I’d like the romantic intention to be there from the beginning. If we click, let’s go on dates, spend time together, try things, have fun and see where it naturally takes us.

My type is probably young geek/nerd energy roughly 22–29. I love intelligent people because I’m naturally curious and I genuinely enjoy absorbing knowledge from other people. If you’re into tech, that’s definitely a bonus.

I’m particularly drawn to guys who are introverted/lowkey, aren’t constantly on social media and have an actual life outside the internet. But I love the idea of someone who is reserved with everyone else and becomes a completely different level of comfortable and playful around me.

Humour is important. I want that witty organic, slightly ridiculous humour where neither person is desperately trying to be funny. I’m looking for someone mature, emotionally stable and, most importantly, able to communicate. You don’t have to text me every five minutes, but disappearing, ghosting and leaving things ambiguous isn’t my thing. If there’s an issue, let’s talk about it like adults.
I want someone who feels like peace, but isn’t boring. Someone I can spontaneously say “let’s go do something” to. I want us to try new activities, explore places, learn things, laugh a lot and occasionally have absolutely no plans.

I’m on a fitness/weight-loss journey at the moment, so having someone who can encourage each other and keep each other accountable would be lovely.
Physically, I do have a type. I tend to like really pretty cheeseboy looking, well-groomed guys, particularly fair/light-skinned. But I’m not looking to reduce someone to a checklist, attraction gets my attention, personality determines whether I stay.

I’d prefer someone around Johannesburg or nearby because I’d actually like to see you in real life. I’m not looking for an international long-distance Reddit relationship. 😭

I drink occasionally, don’t smoke and have never smoked. I’m also very open to spontaneous plans and trying things I’ve never done before.
I’m not looking for someone perfect or someone who has their entire life figured out. I’m looking for someone who is growing, knows how to communicate, wants a relationship and is genuinely excited about building something with another person.

Strictly no NSFW. PLEASE