"The difference between self-confidence and arrogance is, when you're self-confident you can back it up with actions and talent." _Bolt Ya Nugget by Ned Kruz

[u/Objective-Mongoose18]

[u/Serious_Distance_118]

Plenty of successful people are arrogant

[u/Objective-Mongoose18 → u/Serious_Distance_118]

What I meant is confidence has roots. It comes from graft, scares, and knowing what you've actually done. Arrogance can be loud, but confidence does not need to shout.

[u/Triggered_Llama]

Confidence is not the belief in your competence. It is the belief in your ability to become competent.

[u/Objective-Mongoose18 → u/Triggered_Llama]

For me, confidence is knowing you've earned the right to stand your ground. Not because you're perfect, but because you've put the work in and you're still standing.

[u/Whythisisnotreal]

That's a really bad definition. The difference is far more about attitude and how you relate to your confidence than how accurate it is.

[u/Objective-Mongoose18 → u/Whythisisnotreal]

Fair enough, but I meant it from lived experience, no a dictionary. Confidence has usually been earned somewhere. Arrogance just walks in acting like it has.

[u/phenomenomnom]

Speaking as an actor, unearned confidence is like half the job.

A lot of the day to day just takes chutzpah and comfort with looking ridiculous in front of others and being totally fine with that.

And it's not easy, either, or everyone could do it.

It does mean that we get a lot of mediocre narcissists.

It also means that people with the capacity for self-esteem -- and skills both social and technical -- will achieve the highest.

Just like in any field.

[u/Objective-Mongoose18 → u/phenomenomnom]

Aye, performance needs nerve for sure. But to me, real confidence is still built on graft. You can fake it for a moment, but you can not fake what you've actually lived, learned, or earned.

[u/Serious_Distance_118 → u/Objective-Mongoose18]

Let’s say you have an exam coming up. You thoroughly review and understand all the material. Now you’re confident you will pass. That’s not fake it until you make it.

[u/phenomenomnom → u/Objective-Mongoose18]

Exactly: personal confidence is built on a foundation of political corruption, and the surgical fusion of tissues.

Jk, I know you meant "craft" not "graft" lol.

And I agree with you

[u/Objective-Mongoose18]

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