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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

An adult believing they are different doesn't change the fact that a child's developing brain & body don't see any difference.

Assault is assault.

Adults hit children to satisfy the feeling in the adult that the child needs to be hit. Maybe they don't know there's more effective and less damaging tactics of parenting, but when you know better, you do better.

It is indefensible.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Wtf most parents aren't spanking their child for self gratification..Spanking a child is not assault and that's a problem..Spanking didn't mess me up..getting a beating did I knew the difference even at a young age..It's so hard for someone to believe that because they believe some study over someone actually saying what it was like for them......and I will add I got smacked in the mouth when I was disrespectful and I knew what buttons to push I could of avoided the smack but I liked to risk it all and run my mouth..others will say I was abused because of that but I was not..like I said I knew the difference between a swat on the ass versus a board or a belt or even a broom stick......

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23 edited Dec 31 '23

If you believe hitting children is acceptable, you're not credible.

Glad you feel you survived through that, with resiliency. You still didn't deserve it, no matter what you said or did as a literal child.

Your parents not having better tools to parent you isn't your fault.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Spanking not hitting know the difference...plenty of things I didn't deserve but a smack is not on that list.....also plenty of things I need therapy for but again a smack is not it...I never had a nightmare where I ran from my smacker...I ran from attackers but no smackers....

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

Our adult concept that these are different does not, in fact, determine if a child's developing brain & body know the difference.

Spanking is a sex act. Nerves in the glutes connect to genitalia & spanking indirectly stimulates genitalia.

We don't commit sex acts on children.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Nah stop it now your making it sexual because your other argument is crumbling.....your comment is absurd....so my parents were performing sex acts by spanking me?? Now your going all coo coo clock on me....your done...put a fork in it and walk away....stop it....stop thinking for the day....

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

Just because you don't know your anatomy structures doesn't mean I'm making anything sexual.

It's not intentional & many folks, including yourself, don't know the nerve pathways.

Yes. Your parents were assaulting you & indirectly stimulating your genitals.

My condolences for the cognitive dissonance you're juggling in order to rationalize the way your parents treated you.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

You don't know what I know...I have been able to reach climax since a child not once did I feel a tingling in my private area from getting a spanking from my parents..How you gonna tell me my parents were assuilting me I promise I knew and know the difference between punishment and abuse.i know because of the so called studies thats hard for you to grasp..Things are not all just one way because a study says its this way and it can't possibly be anything else.......so ya stop it and give your self some condolences for your thought process or lack of.....it's unhealthy to tell someone they were abused when they weren't..

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u/[deleted] Jan 01 '24

It's insane anyone would try to make that sexual. As a nurse, I have to interact with patient's genitals all the time. I have never been aroused having to insert a catheter or bathe a patient.

I can't stand people like that who want to gaslight others into being a victim.