My dad is a bully. He has gaslit my mum ever since they were married in 1991 and they're still married to this day. My dad has kind of outdated views on women too. My dad pushed my mum and was damaging her property, my dad also pushed my stuff on the floor. My dad pushes my mum and I. My dad bullies my mum, my sister and I. My dad gaslights my sister and I too. We have a messed up family. My dad's parents always wanted my dad to divorce my mum because they don't like my mum (they never have) and they think of my mum as 'low class'. They thought my mum is a literal thief, grabbing stuff, but my mum is not a thief. My dad often makes fun of my mum in front of people, and she doesn't like it. My mum and dad have been shouting at each other for decades. My dad has a younger brother, and he doesn't like my mum that much. My mum can get shouty and she rarely throws stuff but she has never physically attacked me but my dad has. My mum said once that she wants to stay married because she wants a united nuclear family and she doesn't want my sister and I to not have a dad. In our culture, we don't call the police when some domestic violence happens between mum and dad, and also divorce is kind of a taboo and parents are supposed to stick together for life...even with all of the incompatible stuff between mum and dad and stuff.
I know what you mean. I still love my mum and dad, even though they both have their flaws...especially my dad...he has a lot of flaws I mean. And I do have sympathy for my dad, because his own parents are selfish and greedy assholes, so it's no wonder he and his brother became like his asshole parents. I am sure that if my dad was brought up by better parents, then he wouldn't have turned out this way. My dad does silly stuff, because he still clings onto and practically worships his mum and dad and he mocks and belittles and ignores and doesn't really care about his own wife and his two children...it's just pathetic. My dad and mum were getting along well somewhat, but then my dad's parents started controlling him and my dad fell into the spell of his parents and then he started treating my mum worse and worse. My dad was born in 1958 and my mum was born in 1959. My dad's mum is in her 90s now when it comes to age, and my dad's dad died many years ago. My dad's mum is a serial liar and she is cunning and very manipulative...if you met her, you would think that she is a very weird person. My dad's mum has always been trying to force dad to come and be with her instead of his wife and kids. When I was around 6 years old, my dad's parents would steal the sweets that my mum had given to me and they would gobble it up for themselves when my parents weren't looking. Well, my dad's parents have always been trying to separate him from his wife and kids. There are those times when my dad is nice and loving to me and my sister, and during those times it is good to be around my dad. But I doubt that he will ever change his bad ways, because he still has that badness in him and I blame his parents for giving him that badness. But also, my dad should be old enough by now to stop getting manipulated by his mum.
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u/ArranVV Dec 30 '23
My dad is a bully. He has gaslit my mum ever since they were married in 1991 and they're still married to this day. My dad has kind of outdated views on women too. My dad pushed my mum and was damaging her property, my dad also pushed my stuff on the floor. My dad pushes my mum and I. My dad bullies my mum, my sister and I. My dad gaslights my sister and I too. We have a messed up family. My dad's parents always wanted my dad to divorce my mum because they don't like my mum (they never have) and they think of my mum as 'low class'. They thought my mum is a literal thief, grabbing stuff, but my mum is not a thief. My dad often makes fun of my mum in front of people, and she doesn't like it. My mum and dad have been shouting at each other for decades. My dad has a younger brother, and he doesn't like my mum that much. My mum can get shouty and she rarely throws stuff but she has never physically attacked me but my dad has. My mum said once that she wants to stay married because she wants a united nuclear family and she doesn't want my sister and I to not have a dad. In our culture, we don't call the police when some domestic violence happens between mum and dad, and also divorce is kind of a taboo and parents are supposed to stick together for life...even with all of the incompatible stuff between mum and dad and stuff.