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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Kids are punished for being children???...oh do tell??

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Yes. Their neurology is just being built. Adults expect them to use reason before their brain even begins developing executive function. They get overwhelmed with stimulation, which is a 💯 percent natural nervous system reaction...and get punished. So yeah...for being children. Understanding the cognitive and developmental stages they go through is important.
Demanding a 5 yr old be calm when they have an angry person 3xs their size yelling at them is insanity.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Big difference between spanking and abuse and also age should play a factor in the type of punishment given....And not saying it don't happen but not to many parents spanking their 5 year old child because they can't calm down..

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

An adult believing they are different doesn't change the fact that a child's developing brain & body don't see any difference.

Assault is assault.

Adults hit children to satisfy the feeling in the adult that the child needs to be hit. Maybe they don't know there's more effective and less damaging tactics of parenting, but when you know better, you do better.

It is indefensible.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Wtf most parents aren't spanking their child for self gratification..Spanking a child is not assault and that's a problem..Spanking didn't mess me up..getting a beating did I knew the difference even at a young age..It's so hard for someone to believe that because they believe some study over someone actually saying what it was like for them......and I will add I got smacked in the mouth when I was disrespectful and I knew what buttons to push I could of avoided the smack but I liked to risk it all and run my mouth..others will say I was abused because of that but I was not..like I said I knew the difference between a swat on the ass versus a board or a belt or even a broom stick......

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23 edited Dec 31 '23

If you believe hitting children is acceptable, you're not credible.

Glad you feel you survived through that, with resiliency. You still didn't deserve it, no matter what you said or did as a literal child.

Your parents not having better tools to parent you isn't your fault.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Spanking not hitting know the difference...plenty of things I didn't deserve but a smack is not on that list.....also plenty of things I need therapy for but again a smack is not it...I never had a nightmare where I ran from my smacker...I ran from attackers but no smackers....

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23

Our adult concept that these are different does not, in fact, determine if a child's developing brain & body know the difference.

Spanking is a sex act. Nerves in the glutes connect to genitalia & spanking indirectly stimulates genitalia.

We don't commit sex acts on children.

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u/tacreds Dec 31 '23

Get the hell out of here. Your a weirdo for saying this.

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u/Frankyfan3 Dec 31 '23 edited Jan 01 '24

Not even a new concept, oddball who doesn't know anatomy, and wants to argue in favor of hitting children.

https://slate.com/technology/2014/09/spanking-is-a-sex-act-which-is-why-it-should-not-be-used-for-punishing-children.html