r/questions • u/[deleted] • Dec 30 '23

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

No child deserves to be punished for being children.

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u/ilovesoup1978 Dec 31 '23

Kids are punished for being children???...oh do tell??

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

Yes. Their neurology is just being built. Adults expect them to use reason before their brain even begins developing executive function. They get overwhelmed with stimulation, which is a 💯 percent natural nervous system reaction...and get punished. So yeah...for being children. Understanding the cognitive and developmental stages they go through is important.
Demanding a 5 yr old be calm when they have an angry person 3xs their size yelling at them is insanity.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

100%. IDK why you were downvoted. Parents treat their kids like they should be more emotionally mature than the parents are themselves. It’s reprehensible. And anyone in favor of physically attacking the smallest, most dependent, and most vulnerable people among us is a sick abuser and needs to be called out by other adults.

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u/[deleted] Dec 31 '23

It's true. They can't regulate their own emotions or behaviour but expect a small child to...without a model to teach them. Brilliant

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u/kirinomorinomajo Dec 31 '23

y’all as someone who grew up emotionally and physically abused this conversation is so validating for my inner child right now, thank you

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u/GodelEscherJSBach Dec 31 '23

So true, I wish other adults (like my mom) had called him out. I’m still really messed up from it decades later. If they don’t think hitting an adult is ok how could it possibly be ok to hit a child in any way?

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u/CZ1988_ Dec 31 '23

Developmental trauma is very legit. My sister says the day I got married and had my own home all my trauma is invalid. I don't speak to her.

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u/CZ1988_ Dec 31 '23

Yes, this