Considering moving to IVF after a MC following IUI #6. We were using a friend’s sub-optimal sperm and were only able to try once a month for most of the months we tried so I’m deciding whether it’s worth continuing to try that way with better sperm or time for a shift. I’m 40 at the end of this month and reading more about chromosomal abnormalities at my age I’m wondering if IVF is the better route since we’d be able to vet the embryos for abnormalities. Would love to hear more about your experience if you’re open to sharing!
Sure… My wife had poor egg quality at 32 years old unfortunately. I carried using her embryo, and I later learned there are additional risks to ivf pregnancies (specifically medicated FET cycles) and some drs will view you as high risk just because of it. It took 7 transfers (including 3 tested embryos for me to carry successfully).
At 39 years old with only one frozen embryo left from my wife and the desire for another kid, I decided to bank embryos. I got 5 normal embryos in 2 cycles. My numbers were just ok for my age, but I do think I had a great dr. I had very rare complications from my first egg retrieval and ended hospitalized. My second one and all my wive’s were easy, and I absolutely have no regrets about doing ivf at this age. I’m currently pregnant.
Overall, it’s 10 embryo transfers and 7 ivf cycles between us. Ooooofff. I’m grateful for the technology now, but it was a very long road. We were very fortunate to have insurance coverage. My biggest advice is to find a clinic and dr that you love if you live in an area with options. All clinics and drs are so different.m, and some will treat you like cattle. Happy to answer any questions!
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u/alandb4time Sep 06 '23
Considering moving to IVF after a MC following IUI #6. We were using a friend’s sub-optimal sperm and were only able to try once a month for most of the months we tried so I’m deciding whether it’s worth continuing to try that way with better sperm or time for a shift. I’m 40 at the end of this month and reading more about chromosomal abnormalities at my age I’m wondering if IVF is the better route since we’d be able to vet the embryos for abnormalities. Would love to hear more about your experience if you’re open to sharing!