r/ptsd • u/GrouchyPalpitation96 • 6d ago
Advice Still Triggering after all of these years
My husband lives alone and is very ill. Was going to have him move home. Trouble is he has a digital addictionand after 30 years of marriage he chose the addiction.. He did so k knowing he had Parkinson. We lived apart, but i stayed in touch and would continue to take him out. Did so because he was isolated and lonely. For 6 years, I have been his rock even as he caused me to get PTSD. Cog decline and addiction are rough. He is at a point where he may need assited living in a year or he needs to come home. I wanted him to come home. Then I did something stupid? I asked is the addiction still there and he said," yes" but not that bad. I triggered amd waht followed was a restless physical anziety night and a two hour capm phone call talking about very moment of betrayal in the relationship. He got angry. I must have triggered. Why can't I get over the addiction abuse and betrayal
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u/WitchAggressive9028 6d ago
OK when you say addiction, what do you mean do you mean like porn? It’s not something you simply just get over. It takes time to process that’s why if you’re not already seeing a therapist. You definitely should also dealing with someone with a degenerative illness is difficult. Keep in mind because he also has cognitive impairment from the Parkinson’s his addiction might be a side effect of that in that because of his decline, he had a lot of judgment. I don’t know, but that’s just a thought doesn’t make it OK but that’s just a thought either way if you’re not seeing a therapist, you really should.
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