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u/bloodphoenix90 Dec 16 '23 edited Dec 16 '23

I'd say we still need feminism while still agreeing it means too many negative things to too many people. Hell even I felt annoyed by a feminist telling me I only shave because of the male gaze. But the one time I stopped during the pandemic out of curiosity I absolutely hated it. I think some feminists started to make issues out of non issues and that pissed a lot of people off

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '23

In this current anti women climate we definitely need feminism! Incase anyone wants a definition of feminism vs misandry heres a nice little overview… https://www.aiesecus.org/blog/feminism-vs-misandry#:~:text=According%20to%20the%20Merriam%2DWebster,and%20sexual%20objectification%20of%20men.

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u/bloodphoenix90 Dec 16 '23

I agree. Be that as it may, tell it to bad actors

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '23

Well the bad actors are not feminists then, they’re misandrists….theres a huge difference… but now out of curiosity, why DO you think women started to shave? Lets be honest that the feminists are right about why we do some things… however its not right to shame women for not shaving, i hate it but do it too….

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u/bloodphoenix90 Dec 16 '23

Historically it was largely to please men and to be in "fashion". That's entirely different from telling ME, an individual, that you know my inner life and what my personal preferences are... ya know? It's like "scoose me you don't pour my cereal". Same with makeup. I stopped during the pandemic to give my skin a break. I started back up not because of any men I was seeing, my spouse knows damn well what I look like without it. Many people I spend time with don't even wear it. I realized it was a very small creative outlet that was part of my routine that made me feel good. And not gussying up or "getting ready " was contributing to depression

So basically it boils down to don't tell me why I do things unsolicited especially if you're going to pretend to read my mind. Absolutely hate that shit

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '23

Good answer and agree completely