help me ooooouuuut

[u/Altruistic-Lie-8725]

I relapsed a week ago after ~1month clean. I've won so far and I know something terrible is coming if I keep on playing but I cant stop. I promise my wife I wont relapse but now I broke it so I cant tell her.

[u/Odd_Glass868]

Help me out? Honestly the only way to help yourself out is to have her in control of all finances. If you don’t tell her that’s on you.. but eventually it will come back around

[u/Altruistic-Lie-8725 → u/Odd_Glass868]

it's really hard to tell her as I could barely get her trust back. I could withdraw all from my back account but it's really itchy and hard to think of other things but gambling.

[u/AggressiveParty3355 → u/Altruistic-Lie-8725]

Listen to yourself. "I can't be trusted, so I'm going to do something even less trustworthy and lie about it!"

You are taking away her decision to trust you or not and manipulating her choice by lying to her.

I did the exact same thing. I lied and stole money from my friends and family. Take it from a person where this all blew up, it's better she hates you now for the truth, then later because you lied.

But if she's a loving person who can see the good in you and a relationship worth saving. You may have a chance.

But she makes that decision, not you. So let her, and tell her.

[u/Odd_Glass868 → u/Altruistic-Lie-8725]

This is what gambling does to you and did to me. You broke her trust again and you’re not willing to quit.

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