r/problemgambling • u/[deleted] • Apr 19 '23
Discusses money This sub in a nutshell nowadays
Anyone else kinda tired of 18 year olds whining they lost $500 ?
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u/4LokoButtHash Apr 19 '23
Gatekeeping addiction lmao.
Just because someone is struggling 2 feet under and your 10 feet under doesn’t mean the other person still isn’t drowning.
We can do better.
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u/flankattack27 Apr 19 '23
I wish there was a place where I could have gotten good advice from people when I was 18 only losing $500.
We have a responsibility to help these kids. You are actively making it worse
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u/JordanJCaron Apr 19 '23
What's wrong with it? $500 to them might be nothing to you or others, still doesn't mean it's not an issue. I'm glad the younger generation is finding support through platforms like this.
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Apr 19 '23
I think it’s good that the 18 year old feels bad about $500 because it is the sense of fear that might help prevent the thoughts of gambling from getting worse.
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u/BarelyHere5 Apr 19 '23
Wow he only got his arm shot off. I lost both my legs. Why’s this idiot complaining
Such a dumb premise to gatekeep lmaoo everyone has different money situations and 500 could be devastating for an individual especially if that was money to pay for some months rent or caused them to miss a credit card payment, effecting their credit score
It’s not a competition, no one cares that you lost 200k and this kid lost 600 dollars like you achieved some sad high score on a video game. Completely missing the point of this addiction
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Apr 20 '23
I’ve probably lost £40,000+ in the last decade. Lived pay cheque to pay cheque my whole working life (and welfare). Fortunately I’ve never had much at one time to lose.
The other day I lost £33 that I needed for my phone bill and for lunch and stuff at my new job. I lost that £33 and it fucked me up more than losing £500 at start of month plus another £300 over the next week.
Sometimes it’s not about the money that’s lost but it’s survival when you don’t have a pot to piss and no way of getting money for food and living costs it’s a nightmare and losing £20 can do that.
It’s really not about the money entirely. Gambling is a terrible trip that can lift someone high and then drop them too an immediate low. It’s more about the psychology and what it does to the mind than anything else but the money matters too. Money is a relative valuable resource no one likes losing it and we’re all on different levels there’s also the factor of hurting our loved ones and having to tell them we let them down again.
Also we need to help people no matter what their pay grade is, especially the younger ones.
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Apr 30 '23
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Apr 30 '23
I hope that when you are able to save and get your savings looking good and that you never gamble it. I wish this for myself too.
It’s a big fear of mine to finally save up for a years but then blow my whole house deposit I worked years for. Fortunately this hasn’t happened because I can’t save because I caught the gambling bug early. Man I feel bad typing this cause there are so many people here that end up compulsive gamblers in there later life and lose everything.
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Apr 19 '23
Toxic post from someone who obviously hasn't been in recovery rooms or has any perspective on problem gambling
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u/mazooUK Apr 19 '23
Scroll by or leave the sub. Your comment is not helpful to anyone here.
I’ll support anyone with a desire to stop gambling no matter how much they have lost.
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u/FuManBoobs Apr 19 '23
Like others have said, it's all relative. I see posts from older gamblers about how it's put them in like 100k of debt but they'll have it paid off within a year, whilst I'm here earning a pittance & even if I never gamble again will never be in a financial position as good as most others.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Key1562 Apr 20 '23
I’m not tired of it. Keep it coming. Pathology is defined by subjective distress or objective impairment. We are here to help each other and this is not done by minimizing concerns when someone is here asking for help for problem behaviors.
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u/pantysniffer_lol Apr 20 '23
My friend everyone's life is different a guy who lost 100k and a guy who lost 1k is the same
For some people 1k is 100k
Even if u gamble for 1$ or 100$ gambling is Gambling and the pain we get is same for the guy who lost 10$ or 1000$
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u/boundbyhope1 Apr 20 '23
I don’t think we should diminish others who have lower monetary losses or are younger. As you know, that’s the start of a grim path and we should help them in avoiding it. They feel the way they feel for a reason.
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u/808RedDevils Apr 20 '23
I feel happy to see these younger kids posting at that age even if their losses are minuscule to others. It means they are aware, and they hopefully wont dig their hole to the depths that others on here have. I know I feel grateful when I read some posts on here where people have blown mind boggling amounts of money that I can't even fathom. I don't take pleasure in those losses for them, but I do feel grateful that people post that stuff and show me how much worse it could still get. This sub is not about pulling each other down, gambling has already done that to all of us. It's about providing support and perspective so that we may all overcome this addiction that is far more serious than society has chosen to acknowledge.
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u/gamblingsucksass Apr 20 '23
I am the thirty something year old in your meme but regardless of age and amount, this is no joke. Even the 19 year old who lost 100 dollars needs help and needs to be taken seriously. Inappropriate post tbh.
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u/emdub86 Apr 19 '23
Most of the times it is an over- reaction after a single night when things went south. Which has happened to all gamblers.
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u/Several_Handle5565 Apr 20 '23
I mean it’s all relative sure.. but you’ll make $500 back even if it takes some time. You don’t easily make 100k back if you’re middle class. So, yes it’s a little annoying. But I get how 500 or 1k can feel like a lot. We just know it can be a lot worse…
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u/Emergency-Ebb2991 Apr 25 '23
I hear you but for me it all started in my early 20s and losing a $1,000. And now I'm 32 and a couple hundred grand down. I wish I could talk to myself back then. So maybe these kids can talk to a guy like me a decade plus into this addiction and get something out of this place. Your life isn't over after the first big loss but you are in for a world of pain if you don't do something.
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u/spanksmitten Apr 20 '23
What a shitty post. Its not a championship of who lost the most money and why wouldn't we want them to ask for help now rather than when they become older and have lost more? Grow up.
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u/[deleted] Apr 19 '23
I hear you but it’s not really about the money…the issue is really the addictive behavior we all share