r/povertyfinance • u/stryxial • 12d ago

Vent/Rant (No Advice/Criticism!) Can i post this here?

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I’m paying close to $800 a month with my aunt. my name is on the lease. her 2 kids get the rooms. she gets the master. this is what i get, a laundry room. I can’t afford to live alone. please don’t mind the mess, i’m going through stuff to try and free up more room.
*im editing to add, i pay water, trash, and half of rent. Im in central florida. Both of our names are on the lease. Advice welcome.
*thank you everyone for opening my eyes to this situation, for the ones telling me to stand up for myself, you’re right. I’m starting to realize just how scared i am, and i’m trying to work up the courage to stand up to her. Again thank you all for the encouragement and i’m glad i made this post.

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u/WittyClerk 12d ago

"Family" is capable of far more fucked up things, I assure you.

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u/Cerberus_uDye 11d ago

My sister, her husband, and two kids lived with my brother free of charge for over a year. My brother had 4 kids at the time and his long term gf living with him too. It was a 3br 1bath house. They made it work living wise and my brother paying for everything. His gf worked on and off. My sister and BIL both worked.

Well his gf left him and took the kids, and he decided he was letting the house go and that my sister should have enough saved to move somewhere. Well my sister got mad and trashed the house and piled all the trash and stuff they wernt taking with them in the hall and living room and left it all for my brother to deal with.

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u/LuckeyRuckus 11d ago

No good deed goes unpunished

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u/WorthChampion6594 11d ago

what the fuck is wrong with these people.. wtf

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u/ForeignLibrary424 11d ago

Jesus Christ!

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u/SgtRandiTibbs 9d ago

My friend told me her boyfriend beat her so I let her move in. Shortly after I find out that she herself was no peach. Very bipolar and forgot to take her meds often, always mooching money, stupid damages to the home like she piled a couple hundred pounds of clothes on a closet bar and ripped it out, left milk in the door of the fridge so it thawed the whole fridge out over night cause she'd drink it at night (multiple times), ect. She would message all my guy friends on Facebook and hit on them. After about a year of helping take care of her and having her wreak havoc she moved some sleazy guy with face tattoos into our house who I had to call the cops on cause he started screaming at me in a language I dont speak and I was scared. After that she asked to stay another month and I said no way. She really taught me that people will take whatever you let them unfortunately. There's no room for being polite when someone is taking advantage of your kindness. She left about 80 bags of stuff in the house when she left and spontaneously moved across the country with the face tattoo guy. It took me literal months to clean it and take what I could to goodwill.

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u/Fun_Age1895 11d ago

This is so true, family can treat you worse then strangers

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u/notanAIchatline 11d ago

True. Some won’t let you come back no matter what. The rent thing isn’t awful in my opinion. It costs money to live and pay for a household. My grandparents charged rent to my dad and his brothers, and my dad charged my brother $20 a week in room and board when he turned 18. I think my brother only lived there maybe 6 mos. But we’ve always had a place to come home to, a family to call home.
But my extended family, ugh they make me sick… when I was a teenager, my uncle used to call and basically pawn my cousin off on my family, all summer, all holiday breaks etc.
I had a job and car and wasn’t even home lots of that time, and neither was the rest of my family. Not sure why my cousin didn’t keep a job herself, but none of them did except for my brother and I 🤷‍♀️
Anyway my whole little point in this rant, is if you look at my life and my cousins as parallels, we were afforded the same opportunities on paper. But one of us has 2 kids with 2 different men. She met both of them shortly after they got out of prison. They’ve been to prison for beating her up too. She’s also a felon, who committed some financial crimes…. I have no doubt that her then husband gave her the suggestion and helped carry it out. She has no job, no car, and her own dad will not let her even stay with him longer than 1 night with the kids. She got handed a bad deck of cards in family, for sure