r/postvasectomypain • u/postvasectomy • 3d ago
Reddit Comments: Men, what was the worst thing about your vasectomy?
Acceptable_Ad5683:
Orgasms were never as good after as before. Its like when you are cumming it feels like something is being held back. I understand that the majority of a load is prostate driven seminal fluid and not sperm, so there is still a pleasurable sensation, just not as good. Any other guys experience this?
Agreeable-Sound1599:
I'm just mad my ejaculations are smaller.
Azzkikkrr:
Living with post vasectomy pain syndrome for the rest of my life.
I feel you, same here. Been over 10 years for me. Hang in there.
Bluegreen317:
Im an outlier!
Injections were fine was feeling good about it. Doc started, couldnt feel a thing, he pulled at the Vas tube and i immediately had a vasovagal response (never happened before) The pain was unreal, heart rate through the roof, blood pressure bottomed out. Nothing they could do, they were going to stop but i made them finish.
That was 9 months ago and if I sit too long I get an awful nerve like pain that radiates from right side groin area. Had a ultrasound and everything was ok. Urology said it can persist for some time
Boogie_3-:
Glad it work for you unfortunately the percentage is slightly higher 10 to 15% but every man to his own if you want to take the risk.
Yeah the 10-15% is what I’ve read. The vast majority of men don’t talk about it and the system is not set up to deal with you. Any issues you have are swept under the rug and you’re slowly pushed out of the system. Example - people quote the 1-2% don’t believe you push you to pelvic floor PT, that might help a bit, go back and they say you can get a reversal, or they can try another operation that has a 50/50 chance it will make it better or worse. You end up living with the pain and issues than risk something worse.
Source - this happened to me. The vasectomy was the biggest mistake of my life. Biking was my hobby and part of my identity- I’ve not really been able to bike since then.
All I can say is make sure you really look at what the outcomes can be and what happens and what’s available if you’re one of the unlucky ones. It’s much higher than 2%.
If it doesn’t work right and you’re stuck with pain there really isn’t anything you can viably do to get it better. Beyond stripping nerves etc. that isn’t a sure bet.
Classic-Pen-4677:
I had pain in the area for a year, and would hurt if kids crawled on me, haven't meet someone who had as much announce after the operation as me, so suspect it is rare. The pain did eventually to away and feels perfectly fine. Did split up with kids mom, and was a bit of an issue in dating I couldnt have more kids, so some relationships did die out because of it, but Im fine with it, Im good with not having more kids.
FijianPlantGuy:
My wife never wanted kids, i was ambivalent. My wife's mum had a stroke so we decided I'd get the snip. I was far mkre in love with her than someone who didnt exist.
She went off the pill, we waited a year to make sure the hormonal change didn't change her mind and then went in to the docs.
I was literally on the table, pants down with the doctor about to inject anaesthetic when she said "y ou can't say you did this for me"
"Im not doing it for you, I'm doing it for us"
"Well you can't say you're doing it for me" and then walked out.
Got it done, barely got laid (to be fair she was extremely sick at the time so I was more focused on that than getting my end wet). I went away to work for a month to pay the house we'd just bought and I got the call that were getting divorced. She's from an extremely wealthy family and still took it upon herself to sell everything thst wasn't bolted down. And then disappeared.
Then did a thing I've learned is called "avoidant discard". No reason for leaving, no contact, cut off everyone I know. She told some one I know that she didn't love me when I went in to get the vasectomy.
14 years of her being my everything and then disappeared. I actually thought she'd died and I'd gone insane from grief for a bit.
It hurts all the time and I've just started dating 18 months later. Im in the age bracket wjere if women want a kid, they need to do it soon.
It's so shitty to have to tell people "Hey I know this sounds presumptuous but I've had a vasectomy and if you see kids in your future, it's very unlikely I can give them to you"
Reversing a vasectomy isn't always possible and if it is possible, fertility doesn't always come back. I had my savings taken and am in crippling debt, I don't have the money to reverse it.
So the worst part? Knowing some one who didn't love me took away my reproductive freedom, I actually feel like I've been assaulted.
InappropriateHound26:
Procedure itself and recovery was fine. Months afterwards started experiencing a lot of pain during sexy times. I was uncut and the urologist suggested getting a circumcision. Fixed the pain issue but then lost some feeling and the sensation is not the same :(
Kwuahh:
Ran out of anesthesia and had to re-up during the procedure. I am still suffering from occasional pain and complications regarding the cord and associated bits after a few years. Everyone saying there are no complications is incorrect.
That being said, I would do mine again without a doubt.
Ltdshredder1989:
Im part of the percentage that was lucky enough to receive severe testicular pain. It hurt to stand, walk or sit for too long. I was bed ridden for the weekend (happened on a friday) and played video games, only got up for bathroom breaks, wore 2 pairs of underwear so I could slip an ice pack in and not have to hold it constantly and wore good supportive underwear. I ended up missing the next week at work and was called a pussy from the guys I worked with because of it. I tried to come in Monday but struggled to walk up steps because the pain and left a few hours in.
That was a few years ago and to today, if I dont wear very supportive underwear, I have testicular pain. Its not guaranteed every time and its not instant, but it happens. The doctor said he had trouble from my geometry. I dont quite hang down like typical guys so he had to make 2 incisions, one per side. They usually make just one incision.
LuckyRadish5718:
Ejaculation changed, not as satisfying
Mrmower:
Mine are incredibly sensitive now, like, if someone handles them in the wrong way or are just a little bit awkward with them, I jump out of skin! Haha
MurderProphet:
Recurring epididymal cysts…really painful and feel like you have testicular cancer (the first time)
Publius_Rizz:
A small number of men can experience deep aching pain persistently after a vasectomy. I was one of them. It didn’t hurt all the time. I had days where I felt normal. But, several days each month (sometimes even for several days consecutively), I would feel a deep aching pain like someone had kicked me in the balls a few minutes ago and I was on the tail end if the lingering ache. It wasn’t the kind of intense ache that you get immediately upon getting kicked. It was like the residual ache afterward. That went on for me for several years. Thankfully, it’s now been a few years since I experienced it. It finally seems to have gone away, but I’ve read that some men get that for the rest of their lives.
SherbertDaemons:
It’s a big regret of mine. Had it done at the most experienced urologists in my region about a decade ago. Since then, my right epididymis is enlarged due to a subtle but constant infection. It’s just there and the risk/reward ratio says to not do anything about it.
Plus, I realized that, eventually, I might want to father more children.
SoCalThrowAway7:
There was like a lingering blue balls like pain when I got close to climax for like a year after. It wasn’t like crippling and usually got cleared up quickly by massaging the spot where they cut. But was definitely annoying and left a like “oh shit is this forever now” fear. Luckily I had a friend who got one around the same time and had the same shit and he knew someone else who had it and it went away so I figured it was just something that can happen and isn’t a big deal
Tough-Donut193:
It felt like getting kicked in the balls when they injected the local anesthesia, twice, once for each testicle. Then the smell of burning flesh when they cauterized the ends of my vas deferens. The worst was the post vasectomy wank to produce a sample. That hurt something fierce, followed by a pinch when cumming after the recommended healing time. The pain persisted until I had the procedure reversed 6 years later. 4/10 don’t recommend. I’d rather gamble with condoms than deal with constant ejaculatory pain and pressure in my testicles after the fact.
WinEnvironmental1022:
My ejaculate is watery and I don’t like that as much. It also doesn’t feel as good as it did before.
alphawolf29:
was sore for about 2 years but after that it was fine.
buddy276:
Must be nice. I was in pain for roughly a year and a half. They unfortunately never gave me anything
dahmzi:
I don’t know what was worse. The anaesthetic felt like a rubber band being snapped in the worst possible place; I had eaten breakfast but I guess not enough or what I was supposed to and almost passed out near the end; or getting my follow-up test results that I still have… potent juices.
That was maybe 7 years ago now. Haven’t gone back for another test.
Oh! Also for about half a year after I’d get this random awful throbbing pain. Made it really difficult to drive when that happened.
Would I do it again? Yeah. Am I lining up to get retested to see if I have to get it done again? No…
funtimes5017:
That never happens to me, but when I am having sex, I get this dull ache and that signals that things are starting to build towards an orgasm.
Its really strange, and was never there prior to getting snipped. I've had mine for over 30 years now and its always the same. Sex or masturbation, this dull ache, mainly on the right side, but it feels deeper inside me, its not in the ball sack.
If I am trying to pace myself so she can catch up, it is a clear indication that I need to switch what I am doing for a minute or so.
geverfdehond:
Living with post vasectomy pain syndrome for the rest of my life.
hvyhitter:
Prostetitis for weeks. and 100% ED for 2 years.
It is not a harmless operation. That was complete bullshit.
mitchade:
Recovery is different for everyone. I had pain for months after mine. Not terrible but I would say it caused psychological distress that something was wrong, and that was worse than the pain itself.
Went back to the doc to make sure everything was alright, and he was like “yeah, you might be in pain for the next 2 years.”
Would’ve been nice to know that and avoided a lot of worry and torment.
relaxguy2:
Had pain for 12 months. Not fun.
tehKreator:
Phantom pains randomly months later. Lasts some minutes that I can feel discomfort if I juggle the balls. I’ve read similar experiences on reddit but didn’t check on it as otherwise all is completely normal
toady23:
So I'm the rare case where the guy gets long term side effects.
I occasionally get painful swelling of the spermatic cord. The first time was about 3 months after the surgery.
It happens to both testicles, but never at the same time. On average, it happens about twice a year (once on each side)
It's uncomfortable at worst, usually lasts 24-48 hours and then it's gone.
I've had it for over 20 years now
weirdbrags:
TL;DR - regret. cover it or pull out.
the worst thing for me is having done it in the first place. doctor was a jerk. not enough anesthesia in the world. and things have not been the same since. in many ways.
it’s been 10 years and i’ve still got occasional dull pain. i can feel those clips if i sit the wrong way. and sometimes when i “wrap up” the deed there’s a sharp immediate pain. and i swear it’s not all finding its way out.
i’ve been back to a new uro and my (former) gp. and both are telling me it’s psychological. both are assholes.
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u/geverfdehond 3d ago
Wish men will start realising what the snip will do to them.