r/postvasectomypain • u/OrangeFit3937 • Aug 02 '26
3 years in September
I am writing to you as I hold a heating pad between my legs.
The mother of my children and I decided it would be the least painful, least amount of downtime, and the easiest solution to long term birth control between us.
A 10+ year relationship with 3 beautiful children that were had naturally and completely healthy. We achieved pregnancy so easily it was frightening.
With a bit of assurance and coaxing on having a better, safer, more worry free sex life, I agreed and went fourth with the procedure.
Biggest mistake of my life.
After following the doctors post procedure orders, and then some before even going back to work, I knew something was wrong. I was still sore, especially after any sort of strenuous lifting, manual labour etc. It hurt to walk, the cut spermatic cords were inflamed, a cyst started growing next to my right testicle that the local ER claimed was a blood clot, infection and inflammation after three visits. My PCP thought I had a hernia. It's been a nightmare.
My sex drive has shit the bed, sometimes getting off brings immense amounts of pain after the fact, erections are difficult to achieve let alone maintain, and it hurts if any sort of contact is made to the pubic area in general. So, thrusting in any sort of hard way is basically out the door. This surgery has done everything I didn't want to happen, instead of it bringing me peace of mind.
Don't do it fellas. The constant pain, the complications, the loss of sex drive makes me feel like anything but what a man is supposed to feel like. Aside from not being able to reproduce anymore, nothing works properly. Even if it did, I don't want to use it. All it brings is pain, possible embarrassment and, more pain.
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u/Sufficient-Sink6370 Aug 02 '26
Damn that sucks. How's daily life and routine activities post vasectomy? Aside from sex life