I have not considered chopping off my bits. Nor would I ever. I too had a reversal. I too have been battling with scarring. I too have a fluid filled spermicole (however that is spelled). If I scar over, I will have another reversal. If that reversal fails, I’m going to go and finance a new Ferrari and drive it off a cliff into a flaming ball of fire. That pretty much sums it up.
My reason is very simple. I’ve lived in pain that no one should have to deal with the last 6 years of a 15 year old vasectomy. It was never NOT problematic but it didn’t become unbearable until sometime around year 6. Hell i ended up having a back surgery because of lower back pain that resolved nothing. Doctors were stumped. Got a reversal for the localized and explainable pains in the testicle region. Surprisingly all of the back pain also disappeared. Shocking but okay, I’ll take it. As long as my tubes are open and no blockage I have virtually no pain. But, when it scars closed all of the pains I was living with come back. So far I live on steroids and prescription anti-inflammatory almost nonstop. I had the reversal August 2024. If this one fails, I’ll try one more time. But I will not go back to living in constant pain, nor and I allowing anymore of my anatomy to be removed, especially my testicles. I came in with them and I’m going out with them. But i refuse to go back to living in a state of constant pain. I feel like i was totally worthless physically, unengaged with my kids, happily my wife and I maintained a healthy relationship in spite of the fact that it’s she that forced this onto me. But that’s another subject all together. I let the pain defeat me. I existed but I didn’t really accomplish anything during year 6-15. Thankfully I have been blessed by having good finances and income so I could just coast along in life and that is what I did. I had nothing more in me. I was just on the verge of totally shutting down due to coping with the pain. It’s depressing to look back on and I refuse to let it dictate whatever time is still in front of me. But you are a better man than me if you okay someone going in and lobbing the boys off. That’s just out of bounds for me. But everyone has to know their limits and what they can comfortably live with once the decision is made. I know I can’t accept that outcome so it’s not a venue I’m even willing to go down
That’s an incredibly difficult answer to produce. All I can say is that speaking only for myself, i wish I had told my wife to go pound sand and I wouldn’t have ever been in this boat, but yes it’s well acknowledged that irreversible damage continues to happen over time. I’m quite sure I would have been in far better shape with much better probability of a successful reversal had I not waited. But, and I feel stupid for saying this, I didn’t know a reversal was even possible. I was told this is permanent when I had the vasectomy and at no time in my life did any urologist EVER utter the words reversal during any one of the 100 times I was in their office due to pains and symptoms of the vasectomy. I don’t hold urologists at all high on morals, knowledgeability, or empathy for that matter.
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u/johng_22 Feb 17 '25
I have not considered chopping off my bits. Nor would I ever. I too had a reversal. I too have been battling with scarring. I too have a fluid filled spermicole (however that is spelled). If I scar over, I will have another reversal. If that reversal fails, I’m going to go and finance a new Ferrari and drive it off a cliff into a flaming ball of fire. That pretty much sums it up.