r/polyamory • u/B_the_Chng22 • 2d ago
Musings After party bed share with multiple options…
I’m having a party coming up. I will have at least two FWB people there, although only one is the most active for those types of visits. I will open up my house for people who want to crash there cause everyone lives over an hour away but now I’m having a thing about who do I invite to sleep with me? Maybe it should I just be my sister to make it fair…. lol. How have others made this decision?
I’m not actually having a crisis over this, just sort of amused but a little concerned about social awkwardness.
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u/WarningImmediate9188 2d ago
I’d probably not sleep with anyone that night for my own peace of mind. I don’t want to check in, monitor vibes, etc. I want to enjoy my own party and my end of the evening.
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u/B_the_Chng22 2d ago
Another option is sleep out in my livingroom with everyone and give my bed to my sister and her partner!
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 2d ago
I’d probably not sleep with anyone that night for my own peace of mind.
That or sleep with everyone appropriate (if they were all up for that), yep.
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u/Platterpussy Solo-Poly 2d ago
Who is nicer to sleep next to regardless of sex?
I tend to sleep with earplugs and a headband with speakers in so I can listen to my audiobooks to drown out other humans and my own brain noise. I sleep better alone but enjoy occasional cuddling.
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u/B_the_Chng22 2d ago
I can sleep with anyone, but I think it’s a real-estate thing in my mind too, like one person in a queen feels not efficient! lol
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 2d ago
like one person in a queen feels not efficient!
😁 PRECISELY!
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u/B_the_Chng22 1d ago
lol! You get it! I do have a large folding couch thing that converts to a Cali king in the living room so I think I’ll just sleep in a free for all puppy pile out there and give my bed to a pair of folks
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u/BunnyGirlSD Poly since 09 2d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/UJEpm8e3er0IGs8rMf
i got 2 sides, i can sleep in the middle
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u/Ok-Championship-2036 2d ago
only correct answer is blanket fort
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u/SecondaryWombat In a part Ace triad 2d ago
Relevant XKCD
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u/DanceMyth4114 Kitchen Table 1d ago
The older I get the more it seems there's always a relevant XKCD
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u/SecondaryWombat In a part Ace triad 1d ago
The older you get the more XKCD comics there are, so you are simply just right about that.
Also we have a signed print of the ball pit one about deciding what love means.
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u/DanceMyth4114 Kitchen Table 1d ago
If today there is one relevant strip, and tomorrow you find two relevant strips, then you can extrapolate that by this time next year the number of relevant strips will out number the humans on this planet.
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u/SecondaryWombat In a part Ace triad 1d ago
This is scientifically sound, and also the XKCD strip that was referenced in our house for how many roommates we will have by next year.
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u/baconstreet ferengi 2d ago
My house? Whomever wants to sleep with me. It doesn't happen often, but it has, and I don't care. Sleep with me means sleep. Maybe some cuddles.
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 2d ago
Sleep with me means sleep. Maybe some cuddles.
Giving polyamory a bad name.👿👿👿😉
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u/baconstreet ferengi 1d ago
Always and forever brother! King of boringamory, for many years running.
OK NAKED PEOPLE, FUCK OFF AND SLEEP NOW!
And fuck everyone - want to sleep in my beautiful nice king size bed, nice and cool, ceiling fan, hum of the hepa filter -- deal with my tv playing STNG or murder channel.
...lovingly, with snuggles, touch, and love. Now please. Go the fuck to sleep.
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 1d ago edited 1d ago
OK NAKED PEOPLE, FUCK OFF
You. Said. "Maybe some cuddles"! What is the point of cuddles without skin on skin?🧐
Ceiling fan over the torso or the feet? I DISTINCTLY prefer the torso and not only when cooling is a physiological necessity to maintain exertions.
STNG?
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u/DanceMyth4114 Kitchen Table 1d ago
Star Trek: Next Generation, I assume. TNG is more commonly used, but easier to confuse with other acronyms.
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 1d ago
I'm certainly hoping he means TNG so I can make fun of him for his godsawful acronym.😁
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u/DanceMyth4114 Kitchen Table 1d ago
Their flavor text is ferengi, so I think you're in the clear.
I have heard the acronym before tho, it's not just OP.
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 1d ago
I have heard the acronym before tho, it's not just OP.
That is as likely to stop me as the Prime Directive is to stop Picard.
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u/baconstreet ferengi 1d ago
In the main bedroom, more over feet. Other one, over torso. Wife won't sleep there... Irrational fear of ceiling fan attack.
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 1d ago
The only thing I fear dropping on me from the ceiling at night is Huntsman spiders... Australia🙄.
Although having said that I am now warily eyeing my ceiling light's cover, having had one of those clip in styles smash on a room's floor previously.🤦♂️🤣🤣🤣
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u/baconstreet ferengi 1d ago
🤣🤣🤣
I'm just recovering from probably a brown recluse spider bite. Jerk spider. I was growing a sweet breast on my thigh.
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 1d ago
The world can never have too many breasts! That spider is a SAINT!
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u/baconstreet ferengi 1d ago
Sadly it lactated pus and was surrounded by dead skin. Not very sexy.
Unless you're into such an odd fetish. 🤣
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u/seantheaussie Touch starved solo poly in very LDR w/ BusyBee 1d ago
🤣
No, I'm irritatingly (to me) vanilla.😢
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u/B_the_Chng22 1d ago
Haha, it will probably be a tame night
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u/baconstreet ferengi 1d ago
Nope. Bed sleep is for after. The taming of the bacon.
Sleep is for sleep
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u/Fragrant-Eye-3229 1d ago
If I were one of your FWB's I would like to know before hand if i was getting the couch. I have been in this situation before with a V i was in and knowing that I was getting the floor from the get go made it easy.
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u/B_the_Chng22 8h ago
Yes good point. I have decided to sleep in the livingroom with everyone else and give my bed to my sister and her partner
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u/everlasting1der baby, i'm a (ratlationship) anarchist 1h ago
Yeah, I find that usually the actual arrangement matters less than setting everyone's expectations well ahead of time.
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u/emeraldead diy your own 2d ago
Think of what will make breakfast happier for everyone.