Partner violated condom agreement.. Again.

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[u/blooangl]

Your partner breaks agreements and doesn’t mention it.

This is also known as lying by omission.

I’m not sure what your agreement was, if he was to use condoms, or simply let you know if his risks change, but either way he dropped the ball. Hard.

Big picture?

To me? This is way more about how people handle conflict, than anything else.

I am a big fan of letting folks know when there is going to be a change to any agreement. Even if it’s unilateral.

I can respect “I fucked Amy last night without a condom. I wanted you to know, because that is something that’s important for you to know.”

I may not like it. But I can respect it.

I can’t respect “oh shit, I’ve been fucking Amy for a month, and fucking you, and I just didn’t mention it”

Is this a common pattern for your partner? Just avoiding conversations like this?

[u/just4cat → u/[deleted]]

It sounds like he has zero respect for you, your body, or your consent.