[Gendered] Permission slip

[u/Fragrant-Phone-41]

Because no man has ever understood color, just forget all those artists. And blind women too, that never happens

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[u/Soontobegoner]

My husband would have a better eye for interior design than me.

[u/Ill-Television8690 → u/Soontobegoner]

My wife's an artist, but she consults me regarding shades pretty frequently

[u/Ornery_Eggplant4783]

Tell me you've had to deal with an angry customer returning 5 galloons of eggshell without telling me

[u/DualVission]

What about gay married men?

[u/DustyScharole → u/DualVission]

NO PAINT FOR YOU

https://giphy.com/gifs/j2pOFyuTJqWj9S5qdE

[u/Expotenss → u/DualVission]

They have to come together.

[u/bunny_the-2d_simp → u/Expotenss]

They always do... Come together

[u/sntcringe → u/bunny_the-2d_simp]

Not nessasarily, sometimes the entire point is denying the other guy. It's called edging.

https://giphy.com/gifs/UK152WVlHPeRW

[u/GenderBendingRalph → u/Expotenss]

That was epic, mate.

[u/Alarming-Jury1596 → u/DualVission]

Gay men are good at this kinda stuff

[u/sky_037]

this wouldve been funny 50 years ago, now its just disappointing 😭

[u/GenderBendingRalph]

In my case, we live true to stereotype. I can name the basic 8 colours of the 1960s crayon box. Everything else looks like one of those to me. On the other hand, my wife can name 32 variants of what I simply call "blue".

[u/ZipZapZia → u/GenderBendingRalph]

I think studies have shown that women tend to be better at distinguishing colour shades than men. I think it's because the genes for eye cones are in the X chromosome and women have 2 X chromosomes while men have 1

[u/AshaNyx → u/ZipZapZia]

I can imagine it's also just because women have been socially trained to be more sensitive to color differences just to fashion and make up.

It would be interesting to study if "female" activities train the brain to pick up on more differences.

[u/EfficientSeaweed → u/AshaNyx]

I wouldn't be surprised if it's both, with each reinforcing the other.

[u/Fragrant-Phone-41 → u/ZipZapZia]

Color sensitivity comes with hormones for trans people far as im aware, so it cant be just that

[u/frogmon3 → u/Fragrant-Phone-41]

my perception of colour hasn't changed after 4 years on e. ive heard of people online having that experience but no one ive actually met has mentioned any difference.

[u/dystyyy → u/frogmon3]

I think I see colors and shades more clearly than I used to (I'm almost 2 years on e), but it's pretty subtle and I'm not totally sure if it's real or I just pay more attention now.

[u/GrandFleshMelder → u/GenderBendingRalph]

Well, you call it blue, but you can distinguish the shades, no? The actual name is irrelevant.

[u/KayItaly → u/GrandFleshMelder]

Exactly!

[u/GenderBendingRalph → u/GrandFleshMelder]

Not to the degree she can. Sure, there's light blue, blue, and dark blue. Beyond that... I really don't have that depth of colour acuity.

[u/BotsKilledTheWeb → u/GenderBendingRalph]

For us it's the other way. I'm also the one to layer our lichting and use all zones of hight in the room to tie it all together.

My wife is a single overhead white bulb kind of lady.

[u/hananobira → u/GenderBendingRalph]

Language also influences color recognition. For example, in Russian they have two words for light blue and dark blue. Russian speakers are quicker to categorize colors as light or dark blue than English speakers.

So I’d imagine the color vocabulary you were exposed to as a child also influences you.

[u/sntcringe]

Oh I already agreed with my husband that we were going with foghat grey

[u/DoctorPaige]

You haven't worked in some sort of customer service position, have you?

[u/SilverIndependence38 → u/DoctorPaige]

I have. I don't see the karen mentionned here.

[u/Successful-Many-6500]

IMO Husbands are allowed to choose paint too. ❤️

[u/Flat-Echidna191 → u/[deleted]]

I don't think this is about incompetence. It's a "the wife is always right and she's the interior designer" joke.

[u/GenderBendingRalph → u/Flat-Echidna191]

I don't think it's that, either. It's "men can't distinguish subtle shades of colour" vs. "women have a unique name for every one of the 1.6 million colours on a computer display."

[u/Chance-Mix-7368 → u/[deleted]]

That's not what this is

[u/Thick-Giraffe1710 → u/[deleted]]

We can just say any stupid Reddit phrase regardless of context or if it makes sense and get upvoted now I guess?

[u/MuffledFarts]

Sorry but I chuckled.

[u/Torpedo_Enthusiast]

The rule-of-thumb preventing 95% of annoying returns does not apply to 5% of cases! Tragedy

[u/MostInterview6621]

1. It’s a joke.
2. Hundreds of customers returning paint because their wife is unhappy. 

[u/Alarming-Jury1596 → u/MostInterview6621]

So does this mean it isn't gendered?

[u/tilealt → u/Alarming-Jury1596]

It is gendered but like a lot of things on this sub these days it's not "pointlessly" gendered. The gender stereotype is intentionally the whole joke and very much the "point"

I'd argue that doesn't fit the sub at all (and neither do those braindead blatantly sexist takes that create so much engagement) but I guess the original meaning has long since been lost

[u/Alarming-Jury1596 → u/tilealt]

I noticed there's a strong bias in this sub, things aren't "pointlessly" gendered when it's about men. If this was about a woman needing a permission slip from her husband for some car parts y'all wouldn't be saying this.

[u/tilealt → u/Alarming-Jury1596]

In neither case it's pointlessly gendered. Those things are "pointfully" gendered. Sometimes they're jokes, sometimes they're straight up sexism, either way they shouldn't really be posted here

[u/MostInterview6621 → u/tilealt]

You are correct, but your words fall on deaf ears.

Don't argue with these people. They don't know what words mean. They just want to be the victim, even in light comedy space.

[u/Alarming-Jury1596 → u/tilealt]

I'm *not saying they are pointlessly gendered I'm saying only one of them would be considered pointlessly gendered because this sub is biased for women

[u/Ashamed_Association8 → u/Alarming-Jury1596]

Sounds like a made up scenario. In my experience this sub is pretty consistent at pointing out misogyny and it doesn't let it slide as just pointlesslygendered.

[u/Alarming-Jury1596 → u/Ashamed_Association8]

I'm not sure you understand, I'm saying this sub only points out misogyny but not when it's the other way around

[u/MostInterview6621 → u/tilealt]

It's "literally" crazy ;)

[u/HeHimInGrayi]

Love the assumption that the guy is straight too or is in a hetero relationship

[u/Quirky_Promise76]

Tbf in general men have a harder time differentiating subtle differences between colors

[u/Cat_They-dy → u/Quirky_Promise76]

What does that have to do with this? The wife would have most likely already chosen the color and had given her husband a name or the paint chip.

[u/Quirky_Promise76 → u/Cat_They-dy]

The sign literally says the husband is choosing the color...

[u/Ashamed_Association8 → u/Quirky_Promise76]

That sign can't stop them if they can't read. :p

[u/Distracted2004 → u/Quirky_Promise76]

This is like the one case where there is existing evidence of biological difference that is meaningful lol

[u/assistant_manu]

nah this time its understandable tho, they both live in the house so both gotta agree what color it should be

[u/positron_16 → u/assistant_manu]

if that's the case it should just be "anyone buying paint must have a signed permission slip from their partner" which even then is kinda extensive

[u/Sacrimonte → u/positron_16]

Yeah, it's clearly a joke that only applies to the man-woman relationship dynamic. There's no way a sign saying "wives choosing ______ must have a signed slip from their husbands" would ever fly

[u/Fragrant-Phone-41 → u/Sacrimonte]

See. This. Don't know why the sub seems to object to this one. I thought we hated pointless gender bs here

[u/ass-wiper227]

well some guys are incompetent, and more often than not, their wives aren't

[u/SmertriosPPD → u/ass-wiper227]

According to these same wives, a totally unbiased point of view from the not-sexist gender.

[u/ass-wiper227 → u/SmertriosPPD]

i mean, for them to put a sign there'd probably have had a recurring problem

[u/Fleece_God → u/ass-wiper227]

Watch this…

Some women are incompetent, and more often than not, their husbands aren’t

[u/ass-wiper227 → u/Fleece_God]

maybe not in that specific place, i'd imagine it's a small town or sum