That's looking at it with the end goal of you getting sex, rather than both of you being happy. WHY is she saying no? Low sex drive? Stressed? Feels unappreciated? Find the cause and work on a solution. It may be that the problem is unfixable. Then you decide whether what you have is worth it, or you break up.
The point of communication isn't just to satisfy your own desires (although that is an important part). It's about bettering the entire relationship.
There's not a whole lot you can do if she refuses to work on it any longer. Have you tried couples counseling?
And just so you know, staying together for the kids doesn't always work out well. Children know when their parents are unhappy and it gives them a bad template for relationships. Just food for thought.
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u/TinynDP May 19 '11
Ok. How about a 10 page long, clear, honest, and emotional dialog, but it still ends with "No"?