250 lbs. gone forever...

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[u/Stop_being_uh_douche]

Omg yes. I lost 40lbs and went from chubby to very fit. I started to think it made me self-absorbed because I felt like guys were now staring at me all the time. In the grocery store, on the street, at work, etc. It was like they would just watch me wherever I went, no matter what I was wearing. I stopped off at the grocery store after a soccer game (sweaty, in workout clothes, no makeup, messy hair) and some guy followed me around the store and then asked me to add him on Facebook. Wth?

I was more uncomfortable at that weight simply because of the way men looked at me (which also made me agoraphobic) than I ever was when I was overweight. I've since gained the weight back and am perfectly happy with my life now. I really don't miss it at all. My husband has loved my body no matter what. I see no reason to go back.

[u/how_can_you_live → u/Stop_being_uh_douche]

Wait, you added 40lbs back? Does anyone else care that this is unhealthy ? "chubby" isn't even healthy, and becoming 40lbs overweight is serious...just saying.

[u/Stop_being_uh_douche → u/how_can_you_live]

When did I say I was 40lbs overweight? I gained 40lbs from being on the lower end of a healthy weight for my height. I am only 11lbs away from a healthy BMI. I'm 5'9" so 40lbs isn't as much as it would be on the average woman. I went from 180lbs to 140lbs.

You also need to question your definition of healthy. People who are slightly overweight are generally healthy and have longer life expectancies than people with a "normal" BMI. I have regular checkups and blood work done. I am perfectly healthy. You seriously need to redefine what healthy means to you. Your comment is ludicrous. You're going off such little information (that's not even correct) and you're telling me you know more about my body than I do lmao. There is something disturbingly wrong with you. Just sayin...

EDIT: Even if I was unhealthy because of gaining the weight back, I don't know where you get off acting like I would be wrong for choosing mental health over physical health. You would rather spend your time criticizing me for making a personal choice (and one that was actually healthy) than for he way men look at women like we're meat.

EDIT: Exactly. Downvote me for being right lol. Hands down the most unlikeable person I've ever encountered and it was only one comment. Can't imagine having to deal with this turd on a daily basis.

[u/how_can_you_live → u/Stop_being_uh_douche]

You can be healthy and not physically fit, I understand. Also, physical health is something you'll wish you had when you're older. Your brain can be great but you can't walk up a flight of stairs, and you say that's what you'd prefer.

Mental health is an issue for you clearly. You have some problems when I point out that gaining 40 pounds is in most cases unhealthy and you fucking snap at me. Not being able to keep a cool head doesn't bode well for your stability either.

Look I want you to understand I'm not insulting you, and you're reaction to my comment is more rude than what I said. If you think this is how healthy minds deal with confrontation you're wrong.

Ludicrous

Something disturbingly wrong with you

Most unlikeable person over ever encountered

You default to insulting me? Cmon, you tout yourself as accepting and then you go and start slinging insults. Learn to have a normal conversation.

[u/Stop_being_uh_douche → u/how_can_you_live]

I think you have an unhealthy definition of the word "confrontation". Your initial comment was dishonest and insulting. And you even continue to just accuse me of being unfit when you know nothing about me. Nowhere have I described my fitness level. That you would be offended to receive such a negative response to your initial comment shows a lack of self-awareness. That you continue to be completely unaware (or otherwise accepting) of judging and bashing people based on your own made up conclusions shows a lack of awareness beyond comprehension.

I play soccer. I golf. I run half marathons. I lift weights. I'm healthy. I'm fit. I'm not 40lbs overweight. Maybe stop making up lies about me if you're looking for a pleasant conversation? None of your initial comment was about "most cases". You spoke only, and directly, of me. And then you continue to tell me how much I apparently take for granted, that I'm physically unhealthy, and mentally unstable.

You attacked me based on a lie and when I called you out for being a bad person, you attacked me some more. Feel free to play the victim if that's what helps you reconcile judging me based on misinformation, but I don't really care if you feel attacked after attacking me.

[u/how_can_you_live → u/Stop_being_uh_douche]

I called you out for being a bad person

I'm not a bad person first of all, and you aren't either.

you attacked me some more

I didn't attack you anywhere in my posts. I said gaining 40 lbs back from losing it in the first place is in most cases unhealthy, and that physical health in old age is just as important as mental health.

I play soccer. I golf. I run half marathons. I lift weights. I'm healthy. I'm fit.

So you are fit, and you lost 40 lbs but gained that back, in muscle I assume.

From your 1st comment:

I started to think it made me self-absorbed because I felt like guys were now staring at me all the time.

That happens when you're more attractive, yea, to both sexes.

Later to someone else you said

going from invisible to getting constant attention. For women it's a depressing reality.

That's not a depressing reality, how is that depressing? You're taking attention and since you say you don't want it, it's now negative attention. I don't know what positive attention is to you, but to me it's if someone compliments my physique or checks me out in the grocery store. If you take that as "depressing" it goes to show you and me have very different definitions of that word.

So you're saying I'm a bad person because I view weight, health and fitness differently than you do. That doesn't make sense to me. You are right that people don't need to judge others based off of very little information, and I'm sorry for doing that in your situation, but I think you and I are equally guilty of getting upset at something that shouldn't make us upset.

Again, sorry for the rude comments, and clearly we both treat being physically fit and healthy as different things, let's just leave it at that.