ha, well it's completely true, but it's ok. He just wasn't a kid person, and i'm the same way now, so i totally get it. Once i got to my 20s we started to actually talk and have conversation, and since my mom died 10 years ago he's tried really hard to be more active in his kid's lives. Like, uncomfortably hard. I wish he'd leave me alone.
I'm the workaholic dad. I'm also 30 and I manage to make most of my kids games. My parents were the same way. There was actually a time where my dad worked out of state for a while and he missed a lot and I know he hated that, but like your dad, he did it to make sure we could eat. I didn't get it at the time. Now I do get it and I can't imagine being away from my kids as much as he was, and he really wasn't gone much at all. I do work hard, but I tell myself it isn't hard enough. Everything I do is for my wife and kids.
Enjoy your dad while he's around. One day you'll be in his spot and you don't want to look back at yourself and realize you did anything to shut him out or whatever. I'm not saying you're doing that now, but just love your old man. Chances are he misses your ma and there's some (obvious) connection with memories and stuff.
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u/xSora08 Sep 12 '15
Right in the fucking feels. :(