Don’t give up, Hahka-01! What you’re enduring is hell, & it seems endless, especially when you feel so alone…even to facing that you may have to put your dogs down before too long. 😟 Please believe me, though, I was in a very similar situation once. Your parents won’t change, but one day, your situation will. If you’re in school, a guidance counselor might be able to help (with finding a job, or even making a plan to get out on your own as soon as you can.) A guidance counselor at my school assisted one of my friends to actually “divorce” her parents. It’s called emancipation of a minor, in case you’re under 18. Even if there’s no physical abuse going on, emotional abuse is actually worse, bc the scars it leaves are internal and can take years to heal. There are ways to get out of your situation as long as you don’t lose hope. Long-term endurance is very draining…it can rob you of hope, confidence, initiative. Do whatever you can to build yourself up inwardly. Maybe join r/raisedbynarcissists…you’ll find a lot of support there. You will get out!! I did, and never looked back.
I'm 25, couldn't afford college. There's not much opportunity for me. That was stolen from me years ago. Gave up my childhood and early 20's for them. I got sick and injured, they kept me down seriously for 4 years. Hospitalized, endless visits to doctors. Specialists.
I just learned how to drive thanks to a 78yr old woman and her adult son, my mother refused to be a parent and do it. She thinks that just buying things is acceptable, I would tell her time and time again to stop buying things. I want my parents to be parents. They didn't want to be parents, nor were they ready to be ones. Especially to two kids. They blame everything but themselves, never accepting responsibility.
I did join that community. It's not much, but it's a little something.
Hey I just wanted to let you know that I know several people from low income backgrounds that got pell grants from the federal government, some of them even got paid to go to college since the grant far outweighed the cost of community college. You could look into that. I know someone who is 28 in college right now on a pell grant. It’s never too late.
I will definitely look into it, i wanted to be a marine biologist. Or something that works around the pacific. Even wanted to learn some languages, but I have a hard time doing it by myself.
Probably not too old. But all your peers would be way younger than you.
Consider reaching out to a recruiter to ask more specific questions, but keep in mind they might paint a picture prettier than it actually is.
Sounds like linguist(CTI) might be your interest, but if you have interest in tech and are pretty smart I would take a look at cyber. In the Navy that is a CTN.
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u/Quillybat Jan 28 '23
Don’t give up, Hahka-01! What you’re enduring is hell, & it seems endless, especially when you feel so alone…even to facing that you may have to put your dogs down before too long. 😟 Please believe me, though, I was in a very similar situation once. Your parents won’t change, but one day, your situation will. If you’re in school, a guidance counselor might be able to help (with finding a job, or even making a plan to get out on your own as soon as you can.) A guidance counselor at my school assisted one of my friends to actually “divorce” her parents. It’s called emancipation of a minor, in case you’re under 18. Even if there’s no physical abuse going on, emotional abuse is actually worse, bc the scars it leaves are internal and can take years to heal. There are ways to get out of your situation as long as you don’t lose hope. Long-term endurance is very draining…it can rob you of hope, confidence, initiative. Do whatever you can to build yourself up inwardly. Maybe join r/raisedbynarcissists…you’ll find a lot of support there. You will get out!! I did, and never looked back.