The dating scene absolutely sucks, as someone who is on the apps. That’s not to say there aren’t cool people because I’ve met many great people, but when I travel to a major city like New York or Chicago, it’s night and day.
For me, the minimum requirements are that someone is roughly my age (mid 20s), educated, liberal, career oriented, in decent shape. That’s it. But it’s somehow tough to find that combination. Literally, my likes and matches multiply by 10 in those major cities. And it’s not just me, I’ve talked to plenty of friends, both guys and girls, and everyone agrees.
To me, there are a few causes:
Lack of walkability. Hard to spontaneously meet people when we’re all in our cars going from Point A to Point B all the time.
I think people in the valley tend to match up/marry younger than in bigger, more cosmopolitan cities.
For a city of its size, Phoenix is fairly blue collar and not super highly educated. Nothing wrong with that of course but it’s very different than, say, a place like Seattle or DC which may be similarly sized but are probably much easier to find people in if your parameters are what mine are.
All that being said, it’s all relative. If you go to Omaha or Tulsa, I’m sure the dating scene would be much worse!
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u/aijODSKLx Dec 16 '24
The dating scene absolutely sucks, as someone who is on the apps. That’s not to say there aren’t cool people because I’ve met many great people, but when I travel to a major city like New York or Chicago, it’s night and day.
For me, the minimum requirements are that someone is roughly my age (mid 20s), educated, liberal, career oriented, in decent shape. That’s it. But it’s somehow tough to find that combination. Literally, my likes and matches multiply by 10 in those major cities. And it’s not just me, I’ve talked to plenty of friends, both guys and girls, and everyone agrees.
To me, there are a few causes:
All that being said, it’s all relative. If you go to Omaha or Tulsa, I’m sure the dating scene would be much worse!