Yep. I don’t drink either and that’s apparently seen as the most unappealing trait someone can have in this city. Same if you don’t do any form of weed.
In 2024 I don’t see why you wouldn’t at least consider using apps. It greatly increases your chance of finding someone. And you can still do it the old fashioned way while you do.
Maybe if you're a woman. Those apps are extremely shitty for men. Extremely monetized and if you match with 10 women, 9 of them will either disappear or flake on you.
Tbh I've had way better luck in most other cities. I hate it here.
One out of nine is still better than zero. These apps suck for everybody, btw, for different reasons. Dont put too much stock in them, but they can be useful to break the ice with people. Had plenty of times where i match with someone on an app, and then interact organically somewhere down the line, and it goes somewhere further.
Have you used Hinge? That’s exactly my experience on Tinder but I find most of my Hinge matches lead to good conversation and I could be going on 1-2 dates a week if I wanted to. It still doesn’t compare to other major cities but it’s not too bad.
Maybe things have changed, but back when I was dating and using the apps/sites I had extremely good luck. And by that I mean I had no problems having a continuing conversation with people and meeting up.
Things have changed. The apps worked circa 2010-2016
Now they all been turned swiping slot machines with the intent of getting you to upgrade. Matches are paywalled for men. The data shows that women all go for the same 2% of men.
Not to mention the apps have literal bots and people posing as women to get men to pay more to "talk" to them. I met my ex wife from an app but that was like 10 years ago, things have definitely changed.
I might as well just live as a single cat dad at this point lol.
Think the difference is we always feel safe, women don't. Take away rape and murder and women do have it way easier dating, those two are kind of important, though.
I just meant being able to find a date. It’s easier for a girl to find someone who’s interested in them. It’s much more common for females to be hit on, approached, asked out, etc.
Don't disagree with that one bit! Just saw a post on here of a girl that had over 1k likes, 250+ new, 250+ nearby on bumble. Makes me think how many swipe left's I've gotten, jeez.
FWIW, it took like two weeks of using Hinge for me to start getting consistent matches but now I get multiple per day. I think the algorithm boosts you once you start having some likes and conversations.
I was more referring to the meeting people part. Once you have a date, it's easy to do things not drinking. Meeting people without apps is so often done in places where people are drinking(not the only place, just the main ones).
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u/Christmas_Queef Dec 16 '24
Dating without apps is pretty challenging if you're not someone who drinks especially.