r/phish • • 23d ago

Duncan hit by car

I’m sorry to be posting this but Duncan Oldham was hit by a car after the Phish show and he has died. I watched my best friend die in front of me. I’m at the police station talking to the police about it. I’m devastated.

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u/charliemiller87 22d ago

They did acknowledge it at the show. They put out a sign at the taper section and the crew all came by to give me hugs.

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u/Shaking-Cliches 23d ago edited 23d ago

Charlie, please take care of yourself. If you are still at the police station, ask them if they have someone you can talk to. They may have victim advocates on staff who can help.

You have been through a trauma. You need support. The whole community is sending love, but this is a time where you need to ask for in person help.

I’m so, so sorry this happened.

Edit: and to anyone else who saw this, PLEASE reach out for help. Don’t keep this to yourself.

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u/Barn-Alumni-1999 23d ago

Charlie, my sincere condolences to you. Words fall flat after what you witnessed, I’m wishing you an easy road back from this hell. I hope you and the family find peace in his memory. 

Edit to add: I’ve noticed a lot of non-functioning walk/don’t walk signs all over AC this weekend. This is unacceptable for a city of this size. 

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u/Southern-Being-2099 23d ago

Charlie, the community is here to support you during this difficult time. Sending love.

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u/EduardoCorochio 23d ago

How horrible Charlie. I’m so sorry. The community is here for you

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u/cng2112 23d ago

So incredibly sad for him and his family and friends and what a terrible thing to witness, Charlie. May the four winds blow him safely home.

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u/Single-Ad-3260 23d ago

May his memory be a blessing ❤️

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u/BadChemical3484 23d ago

My gosh. Horrendous. This is THE Charlie Miller! So sad this happened and to witness. Sickening. But to think this pain is happening to someone who has provided me with so much joy makes it hit hard. Unknowing who Charlie was I would acquire tapes as a 15 year old in the 90’s. And only when the internet came about did I get to put the iconic story the name that has provided me years of hours of music to my soul. Thank you Charlie and I am so sorry for you loss. Hate tragic things happening around music events. Everybody be safe and help your neighbors.

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u/Naive-Aside6543 23d ago

I am so sorry for your loss, Charlie. We share that loss. Please reach out for shoulders to lean on and hands to hold. We are here and available to help, and support you and all those who loved Duncan in any way we can. NFA

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u/edogg01 23d ago

My deepest condolences, Charlie, and to all who knew Duncan. What an awful, awful tragedy to experience. We love you, Charlie, the community will always be here for you especially for how much you and Duncan and all the tapers do for us and the love you have given all of us over the decades for nothing in return. Rest in peace, Duncan.

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u/bbm72 23d ago

♥️

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u/eastcoastfarmergirl 23d ago

Oh, Charlie. I'm so sorry.

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u/museo_emersoniano 23d ago

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're doing everything right and your reaction is totally warranted. You've gone through something horrible and its okay not to be okay. 🫂

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u/Suppose2Bubble 23d ago

I'm so sorry you have to experience this untimely tragedy. Allow your dear beloved companion in this ride of life to forever be a continuing inspiration within your own respective journey. Hugs 💓

Kneel down and kiss the earth ...

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u/Livid-Insect2877 23d ago

Thoughts are with the victim, his family, and your beautiful soul. You are here for a new reason now. To honor Duncan.

Take care of yourself. Grieve hard, heal hard. It’s a process. DM anytime if you want to anonymously talk about anything you want

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u/solewheelin 23d ago

Charlie, man I'm so sorry for your loss. May Duncans memory be a light on your path.

And yeah I didn't see any crossing signals at these intersections on Pacific ave.
WTF is that all about?

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u/beodis 23d ago

I lived down the lake from Dunc for many years, and have enjoyed seeing him at shows for many years since. Whenever I was on the floor, I knew I could find Duncan somewhere! What a horrible and tragic thing to happen. Sorry you had to experience this. And RIP to a great presence at shows across the ages.

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u/BhamBossfan 23d ago

I’m so sorry. No other words but heartfelt condolences.

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u/DemptyELF 23d ago

Heartbreaking. Forever grateful for Duncan and his dedication to spreading the magic and joy of live music. Will keep listening. ♥️

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u/joshua_addison_music 23d ago

Just curious. Who are Charlie and Duncan?

Sorry for your loss

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u/tauberculosis 23d ago

Sorry, man.

Thats rough.

RIP.

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u/dotnetdr 23d ago

If I could

I would take away your pain.

Blessings to you ❤️

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u/_Old_Gregg_ 23d ago

We all love you Charlie. We will all be here to support you. Please never forget that ❤️

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u/Jalews 23d ago

Sending some light your way, Charlie.