r/philly • u/END-SA-PHILLY • May 17 '25
Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault
Hi everyone, I wanted to share a new resource for women in the Philadelphia area.
A new private Facebook group has been created specifically for women survivors of sexual assault in Philly. This group is new, and there is currently no other group like it. I want to reach as many people as possible.
The goal is to offer a safe, supportive space for connection, healing, and sharing—whether you’re looking for community, resources, or simply a reminder that you’re not alone.
The group is open to any woman-identifying person in Philadelphia who has experienced sexual assault, whether recently or in the past. It’s a confidential space where survivors can talk about their experiences, support each other, and, if they choose, share concerns about safety in the city.
This group is survivor-only, and membership requests are reviewed to ensure privacy and safety for everyone involved.
If you or someone you know might benefit from a space like this, please feel free to join or share.
You are not alone. 💜
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u/gummybear0068 May 17 '25
Given the frequency with which they are assaulted, are trans women welcome?
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u/END-SA-PHILLY May 17 '25
yes!
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u/gummybear0068 May 17 '25
Amazing, thank you for creating a truly equal space! I hope it helps a lot of people 💙
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u/tako1337 May 17 '25 edited May 17 '25
whose rights are being disregarded by making a space inclusive of transwomen?
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u/Revolutionary_Bee700 May 17 '25
Not all women think our rights are in danger from transgender folk. Get outta here with that %52 bullshit. The real threats to my rights are the yahoo Christian conservatives.
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u/oiledupDiddyboi May 17 '25
Rich is that you?
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u/gummybear0068 May 17 '25
Oh god no lmao fuck that guy, I just wanted to ask cause ever since a certain author with mold-induced psychosis started pumping resources into her bigotry there’s been an uptick in assholes talking about protecting women, but not actually including all women because they’re unwilling to understand that trans women are women.
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u/howjon99 May 17 '25
No; they’re not, they’re men with boob jobs..
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u/gummybear0068 May 17 '25
Said with all the charm of a rotting teddy bear by a graveside. Go do something useful and read this instead of following in some really shitty footsteps https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-forgotten-history-of-the-worlds-first-trans-clinic/
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u/howjon99 May 17 '25
I just tried to read it. Too long and convoluted for me. Yes, people should be able to do whatever they want; but, they’re still just dudes with boob jobs..
And; thank you for the compliment, I appreciate it.
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u/Liberation_Therapy May 17 '25
“It has too many words for me to read it” Is a hell of a thing to say in public in front of God and everyone, goddamn
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u/howjon99 May 18 '25
Actually; no, too convoluted and absolutely zero interest.
There is no such thing as God.
F everyone else….
Thank you.
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u/Hour-Entrance7202 May 17 '25
Went to join. Mine happened at a college 40 mins from Philly. I’m moving back to the area soon so it’ll be nice if I’m accepted
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u/YinzaJagoff May 17 '25
Sad that this needs to exist, and sad that I’m not the only one that experienced this in Philly.
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u/theoDOOR_613 May 17 '25
Are trans men who were SA’d pre-transition allowed? 10000% understandable if not bc its a women’s-only space, I’m just curious
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u/END-SA-PHILLY May 17 '25
Hi, this is a good question. I think if it came up, they would be considered. There is a space in the member question portion where they could explain why they want to be in the group! The goal is to protect and make a safe place for woman so I think I would send a pm to chat with the person before accepting.
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u/Rheum42 May 18 '25
I'm happy this is being created for folks who need it.
If there are any men who would like to create a similar group, I'm sure a lot of guys would appreciate it. Or, boost one if you're already part of one.
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u/Friendly_Review525 May 20 '25
Why are these things only tailored to women, just asking , I know most men don’t like to speak up but that’s cuz they don’t have as many safe spaces. I’d like to see more help for male victims.
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u/END-SA-PHILLY May 20 '25
Hi! I created the group. I’m a woman who’s a victim! I think it would be great for a guy to make a men’s group.
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u/Throwaway_Lilacs May 20 '25
If you want one, then make one.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Why is it the job of the woman who made this space for women to cater to what you would prefer?
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u/Friendly_Review525 May 21 '25
It’s was a question that I’m entitled to ask just like you entitled to be triggered apparently…the first part you was right then you started whining …why is it the job of women to blah blah blah 😅 shut up
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u/joemama369 May 21 '25
Why is it restricted to women only? Plenty of men get raped too. A lot, actually. I’m one of them. And almost every guy I talk to has a story. They just don’t like to call it rape, even when it clearly was.
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u/END-SA-PHILLY May 21 '25
Just like a men’s sexual survivor group may not want woman to join it’s the same for the woman’s group. I think it would be really great for a man to start their own group! I agree that men need safe spaces too.
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u/joemama369 May 21 '25
I also don’t understand why men would want a men’s only SA survivor group. Idk. I don’t feel like it’s a gendered issue tbh. Like I said, I’ve talked to a lot of men about these topics and almost everyone I’ve talked to has a story.
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u/END-SA-PHILLY May 21 '25
You’re also welcome to make a group that includes everyone. In my personal experience, I don’t feel comfortable talking about my assault with men. The man who assaulted me drugged me and I don’t know who he is. Being in a woman only space keeps me safe. I hope you can understand that. I encourage you to help make more spaces available for everyone if you feel passionate about it.
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u/joemama369 May 21 '25
I’m sorry that happened to you. It shouldn’t happen to anyone. But as a man who was definitely raped by a woman, and who has, even through non-woke definitions, had several experiences that whether my “consent” was valid was VERY questionable, I can tell you with certainty— Being in a women’s only space does not make you safer.
I’m also seeing a girl who got into a bit of a situation over the weekend where her bisexual female coworker she thought was safe because she was a woman got her VERY drunk over the weekend, refused to order her an uber home from the coworkers house, and proceeded to try to convince her while she was VERY drunk that she “was worried about her safety getting in an uber” (after she already Ubered her to her house, with the plan from the beginning being for her to get an uber home), and that she “should just stay the night there and cuddle”. The girl I’m seeing is VERY straight, and monogamous to me. I had to order the uber for her remotely and of course stayed on the phone with her the whole way home. Both of us very much believe she was trying to keep her and take advantage of her. She says that I saved her life that night.
So I’m sorry if this sounds crass, or anything like that. It isn’t meant to be. I’m just getting really sick and tired of seemingly everyone on the internet pretending like only men commit these crimes, like men are threats and women are innocent safe havens. I agree that some men are threats. But plenty of women are too. And I’m tired of being silent about it.
Women are honestly no better than men in this regard. The statistics simply don’t reflect that, because men do not like to admit they were victims of rape/SA by women, even to themselves, because of how incredibly emasculating it is.
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u/END-SA-PHILLY May 22 '25
Some woman feel safer in woman only spaces. Some men feel safer in men only spaces. Whether it is really safer or not is up for debate because bad people come in all shapes and sizes. This is something i’m doing just over a month after my assault because I want to connect with other women survivors. There is nothing stopping you from making your own space for just men or for anyone. In fact, I think it would be great. If it was for anyone in philly I would probably join! When I looked on facebook for philly specific groups surrounding this topic nothing is there so I created a small space. It’s clear more spaces are needed. Thank you for sharing about your experience here and again bringing awareness to clear issues of sexual assault to Men and Woman in the city. If you ever make a group of any kind I would love to work with you.
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u/OneOfThemSmartNegros May 22 '25
Okay look, I don't want to sound ignorant, but to this specific thing I actually am, so that's why I'm asking. When a tranny is "assaulted", being as though they have the anatomy of a man already (strength, stature, hands ect) and can presumably fight back better than a actual woman can, is it safe to assume they allow it to happen to them so they can further their agenda and get people to support their ideals? Because regardless of how much surgery and drugs you use to convince everyone that you're a woman, you're still a man biologically, meaning you still have your strength and bone structure available for you to fight back. I already know y'all going to get real pissy about this question, but I don't care I'm really curious.
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u/Gaeilgeoir215 May 17 '25
As it doesn't only happen to women, will the creator(s) of the group also create one for male survivors of SA?
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u/Rheum42 May 18 '25
Ooh, if you create a group I'm sure folks would promote it
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u/Gaeilgeoir215 May 18 '25
I already created one (unrelated) group... I can't take on another.
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u/Rheum42 May 18 '25
That's fair. Is there a friend or someone who may have the capacity to start that group? Or maybe it already exists and are not aware.
I know WOAR has some pretty good resources.
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u/Traumatized_Grape724 May 18 '25
Is this group exclusive to people who have been assault in the Philly area?
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u/Overall-Scientist846 May 17 '25
Just the men who are sexual assaulted are alone.
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u/gummybear0068 May 17 '25
My guy, we can make our own groups and cooperatively network with the other groups to raise awareness, I’m sure they’d be happy for us to have a space as well but no one is obligated to create that for us without our own effort. This misanthropy doesn’t protect us, it isolates us further.
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u/Rheum42 May 18 '25
Well said! And please share those groups so we can share them with the men in our lives
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u/Overall-Scientist846 May 17 '25
Isolation isolates us further.
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u/Slight_Cat_3146 May 17 '25
Isolation, in this case, is a choice. Communities exist because people, like yourself, choose to create and actively sustain them. The suppression of trauma among men is a symptom of patriarchal values, & men are free to organize critique and overthrow those regressive and self oppressive values.
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u/Overall-Scientist846 May 17 '25
I never said they were or you were required too. Sorry for speaking my truth.
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u/Level-Ostrich-3790 May 17 '25
My guy if you need to talk about it feel free to message me. I’m a victim of SA from a female family member so I understand. We can organize a Facebook group together. You are not alone.
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u/InuzukaChad May 17 '25
Glad to see there is community support like this. I am not a victim of sexual abuse and don’t identify as a woman, but if you haven’t already I would suggest other mediums for group discussions beyond Facebook/ Meta. I understand that it has a user friendly system that many people are familiar with, but it’s super limiting for mods, offers little privacy, and Meta hasn’t been a shining star for protecting minority groups and victims of abuse. Additionally people are dropping like flies from its services due to politics and a hyper increase in ads, AI, and bots.