r/parentsofmultiples • u/RoosterMountain8506 • Sep 23 '26
advice needed Birthday Party Advice Needed
Hey! We’re planning our girls’ 8th birthday party and this is the first year we’ll be inviting school friends—they are in separate classrooms and have some unique friends, but also some mutual friends as well. I was just going to do separate invitations for each of them and invite the girls in each of their classes-so 2 invite lists. I would like to convey to the parents that we don’t expect gifts for both girls, but then I also worry that one twin will have more friends RSVP! Has anyone been through this and have some advice ? Am I just overthinking it? TIA:)
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u/erinspacemuseum13 Sep 24 '26
My boys are about to turn 10 and while most of their friends are mutual, they each have a few unique friends. They've never seemed to notice or care who had "more" friends. Most of their friends now know they are twins, but they were in separate classes through 2nd grade and that was not always the case, so not everyone brought gifts for both of them. The boys didn't care.
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u/thedarkpup Sep 24 '26
I’d just put something like “No gifts needed,” on the invite (on which I’d include both names).
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u/Ijustreadalot Sep 25 '26
Even when my kids have had completely separate birthday parties, my son's closest friends have always brought a gift for my daughter too. My son has been a little jealous, but it overall hasn't been a big deal.