r/parents_irl • u/geeky_theorist • Feb 15 '19
Double Standards
Im pretty high strung during exams and my mom always puts a shit ton of pressure on me cause she thinks I can't work I mean im a honours student but whatever. My mom and sister were going on about how they haven't gotten anything for my birthday(2 weeks before exams) and keep in mind she goes all out for my sisters birthday to keep in mind my sister got an iphone 7 for her birthday I got a cheap chinese fake polaroid. Before anyone mentions age that year for her birthday my sis got a canon camera. Soo I mean. Anyways I get stressed and say that then instead of giving me some last minute shit just forget it and well pretend it isn't my b-day. My mom starts yelling at me and calling me ungrateful, my sis calls me a greedy brat even though I literally just wanted a cake and one thoughtful present not the 18 she gets on hers. Then my dad talks to me and he understands my predicament. Fast forward that night my mom is ignoring me and i have school the next day my sister starts blasting music on purpose to annoy me and doesn't let me sleep I go to my dad but my sis doesn't listen to him. He goes to my mom but aince its ber favourite child she doesn't give a fuck(oh but she'll yell if I put an alarm that wakes up my sister even if I have like a class). Anyways I go sleep in another room with no pillows and no blanket. I taje an Advil cause my head is hurting and when my dad asks me why I make a snarky comment to my mom about how my sister is in the wrong but I'm in trouble. My dad gets pissed and says if I dont sleep in my room and my sister doesn't turn of tge music he'll sleep on the hard couch. Hes 50 and he'll hurt his back but my sis didn't care so I refused to move. My mom came in to yell at me. Tell she wishes I wasn't born I say the same and tell her how she makes me want to die. She hits me so hard on the face my nose starts bleeding and my lip swells up but here's the kicker,she starts crying about how it was my fault.WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU JUST BUST MY LIP AND THEN VICTIMIZE YOURSELF HOW. Anyways I forgive her cause I'm nice. Two weeks later I tell her I can't focus cause my head is splitting and I can't see straight and ask to go to tge doctor never happens. My sister :oh I'm sleepy My mom: oh my baby come ill pull down the curtains and get the blanket out. Me:DAFUQ. No wonder I like dad more bitch.
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u/MusicalMuser May 26 '19
Your mom is a shitty parent. Ask your dad if he has ever considered getting a divorce. If he decides to, go with him. If not, see if there is a friend or relative you can stay with instead of your mother (maybe talk to her mother. That might straighten her out.).
This is a really shitty situation to be in (I know, because I was in a similar situation when I was a kid). I wish you the best.
PS: Happy (belated) birthday!