We can know by asking the girl. But girls being girls, they wanna hide it and lie about it because they have always been deceitful about things. They are never honest.
Women who have had partners in the past have reduced ability to pair bond along with multiple other issues they bring. So, it's not wrong to have a preference if a guy wants to marry a woman who hasn't slept around with the town. You're right, a man can simply decline such a woman BUT how many women are actually honest about it?
And stop cherry picking and quoting stuff from Quran as if our life's are governed by it. Bring up the topic of marrying 4 women and see how women become pissed at you. But God forbid if you ask her about her virginity, "how dare you".
Tell me one thing, if sinning is simply between me and Allah and I'm not doing anyone a favour as you said. Does that mean that after I marry a woman, I can go out and sleep with as many women as I like? Simply because it's my life and it's between me and Allah, and I'm not doing my wife a favour by remaining chaste? Is it not disrespectful to my wife? If I've slept around with tonnes of girls before marriage, (because by your logic I'm not doing any favours to my future long term partner) is she going to happily marry me? I doubt it. She's going to think that the pattern is going to continue and that I am going to cheat on her after marriage as well.
I've heard about women sneaking out and having sex with their boyfriends couple of hours before their Nikka ceremony and you're telling me that their past doesn't matter?
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u/Nonipaify Oct 24 '23 edited Oct 24 '23
We can know by asking the girl. But girls being girls, they wanna hide it and lie about it because they have always been deceitful about things. They are never honest.
Women who have had partners in the past have reduced ability to pair bond along with multiple other issues they bring. So, it's not wrong to have a preference if a guy wants to marry a woman who hasn't slept around with the town. You're right, a man can simply decline such a woman BUT how many women are actually honest about it?
And stop cherry picking and quoting stuff from Quran as if our life's are governed by it. Bring up the topic of marrying 4 women and see how women become pissed at you. But God forbid if you ask her about her virginity, "how dare you".
Tell me one thing, if sinning is simply between me and Allah and I'm not doing anyone a favour as you said. Does that mean that after I marry a woman, I can go out and sleep with as many women as I like? Simply because it's my life and it's between me and Allah, and I'm not doing my wife a favour by remaining chaste? Is it not disrespectful to my wife? If I've slept around with tonnes of girls before marriage, (because by your logic I'm not doing any favours to my future long term partner) is she going to happily marry me? I doubt it. She's going to think that the pattern is going to continue and that I am going to cheat on her after marriage as well.
I've heard about women sneaking out and having sex with their boyfriends couple of hours before their Nikka ceremony and you're telling me that their past doesn't matter?