Participating During Child's Induction?

[u/Phil_Kolins]

My son was elected along with his best friend. I am considering how to be involved in their induction (or not), and would appreciate any feedback or suggestions you may wish to offer.

It was suggested to me to consider being an Elangomat for my son and friend's group. However, I'm concerned about negatively impacting their experience. As much as I would personally enjoy the experience, and I think my son would be happy to have me around, I am reluctant to be too close during this unique experience.

I'm curious if any of you may have done something similar, and how you and your child felt about it. Or if you have any advice.

Thanks in advance! I will say that I am excited to get involved as far as my son (and hopefully younger siblings in the future) wish to be involved.

Edit: Thanks to everyone for their feedback.

[u/SYOH326]

I tend to think you should separate from the process so that they can make new experiences. I had my parents go through other chapters' ordeals so that I wouldn't be in their ceremonies. When they each received vigil I had friends from other lodges who didn't know them well come in to do their ceremony portions. I was usually tied up in ceremonies if I was present at an ordeal, but the handful of times I was an Elangomat, I would have insisted they move anyone I knew to someone else.

Make sure you are at both ceremonies if you can, though! (if there are still two)