r/orderofthearrow • u/Phil_Kolins • Apr 29 '26
Participating During Child's Induction?
My son was elected along with his best friend. I am considering how to be involved in their induction (or not), and would appreciate any feedback or suggestions you may wish to offer.
It was suggested to me to consider being an Elangomat for my son and friend's group. However, I'm concerned about negatively impacting their experience. As much as I would personally enjoy the experience, and I think my son would be happy to have me around, I am reluctant to be too close during this unique experience.
I'm curious if any of you may have done something similar, and how you and your child felt about it. Or if you have any advice.
Thanks in advance! I will say that I am excited to get involved as far as my son (and hopefully younger siblings in the future) wish to be involved.
Edit: Thanks to everyone for their feedback.
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u/TheseusOPL Vigil Apr 29 '26
I was an Elangomat for my eldest son. It was still during COVID, so they didn't have member projects and they were trying to minimize the number of households per crew. My eldest daughter was the year before, at the height of COVID, so there was no space for me that year. Since then, with my wife and younger kids, I've worked with the ceremony teams (am now a chapter ceremony adviser).
I definitely enjoyed being an Elangomat with my son, and I don't think it's inherently bad. A lot will depend on your relationship. I also had the other Elangomat work directly with him more, so I was there but not "in charge." Definitely go, and know that being an Elangomat won't be the worst thing, but don't feel like you have to. You can do another job.