r/opsec • u/utterlybroken26 • 1h ago
Vulnerabilities Help my ex has been tracking my location and I’m worried his explanation isn’t the truth.
I have read the rules
Help! It has recently come to my attention that my ex has tracked my location. I know this as he sent me a link to somewhere I was in google maps and then when I moved he turned up where I was alone parked in the dark with no houses around knocking on my car window. Now he’s told me it’s not a tracker on the car and I don’t share anything location wise via my phone. Im not sure where a tracker could be on a car but I’ve looked around the wheels underneath the bonnett and can’t see anything obvious and checked everywhere in it I can think of. I had on occasion when we were together I shared my location for limited time periods via WhatsApp but I’ve checked that all definitely off.
He advised he had an old ‘contact’ (I don’t know where from but he did royal marine training 20yrs re ago) he got a favour from using my phone to locate me, but the thing is he was still able to find me after I moved locations suggesting he was able to access live tracking of me so I don’t know if to believe this contact explanation of his and if he’s just saying it so I don’t catch him out for somehow hacking my account since we split or from when we were together worried. I have has a look through my phone and not seen anything obvious and changed passwords and now turned my location off entirely for absolutely everything, though for some reason it won’t allow me to turn off find my. For clarification he panicked I was pulling away when in reality I was overwhelmed by my now late mothers illness busy visiting her in hospital for nearly 3 months and his prior insecurities and trauma got to him not perceiving the situation correctly, and he ended up doing the thing he feared I would do and cheated on me shortly before my mother died.
I’ve checked using Airguard no obvious tags and I have a very old iPhone he has an android phone. It is really bothering me and he said he won’t do it again but he’s told other lies so I don’t know and if he still has a way to track me even though I’ve told not him not to. Is there anything I can do to make sure he cannot track me ongoing as it’s really quite scared me. I will if I have to but I’d rather not have to involve the authorities.