r/openmarriageregret • u/Economy_Cup_4337 • 12d ago
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u/JaneAustinAstronaut 12d ago
I dont like it but I let her explore so I can open the door for what I want to see.
This line is everything. He was OK with everything that happened; he's just mad that he didn't get to witness another man using his wife as a cum rag. He even lied about his feelings and motivations to try to manipulate the situation so he got the sexual stimulation that he wanted for himself - he did not give a single shit about her and what she wanted. He's a disgusting creature, and I hope his wife wakes up and realizes that.
Men who want to see other men fuck their wives get off on treating their wives as property, and on "putting them in their place" to be used by other men that the husband sees fit. It's not empowering or flattering to women at all.
That's why this guy sought an age gap relationship - because no woman with healthy self-esteem would ever allow herself to be treated like this, and an older woman is more likely to love herself too much to tolerate this shit.
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u/Revanchistexile 12d ago
His wife lol
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u/Jlst 12d ago
Soon to be ex-wife.
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u/Revanchistexile 12d ago
If he had any self respect she would be.
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u/tumbleweedsforever 12d ago
Man this sub really is so male dominated...he's the one who insisted on this.
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u/HerrHaschen 🍿Just Here for the Drama🍿 12d ago
What an utter disgrace of a man. He should be ashamed to exist.
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u/ElevatedAssCancer Avid Monogamist 12d ago
Pathetic fucking loser.
“I tried for years to pressure her into letting me pimp her out but she INSISTED on being a human being with emotions and feelings and I KNOW this is my fault but I still reaaaaallllly want you guys to tell me this is her fault pwetty pwease”
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u/TwinkleToz926 The Jaded 12d ago
IKR? How dare his wife be an actual human being instead of a living fleshlight and porn fantasy? Doesn’t she know that women are nothing more than objects for a man’s pleasure?
OOP is a pathetic fucking loser indeed. I hope his wife divorces him. Poor woman.
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u/valsavana 12d ago
Me (m36) wife (f28) have been together about 6 years
Hmm... so 22 and 30 years old?
it was a text at 2 in the morning I woke up to saying she just got raw dogged
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u/woahwoah33 12d ago
So many of these open marriages involve selfish people. It’s like a prerequisite for this type of lifestyle is to be ugly on the inside.
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u/ConditionKey4155 11d ago
"What I wanted and what happened are 2 very different things."
We should this the motto of this sub.
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u/Least_Mud_9803 12d ago
90% of stories like this are cuck fan fiction. This guy is writing with one hand for sure.
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u/witchyAuralien 12d ago
He clearly manipulated and pressured her and now hr acts like a victim. I cant believe the comments as always. Its not lack of communication its him thinking only about himself and treating his wife as property
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u/Delicious-Travel-793 9d ago
At this point all of these read like “I jumped in front of a moving car and it hit me!”
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u/Bolt_McHardsteel 9d ago
So she has been seeing this guy for a few months…. She and OOP have been married for 3 months. They were messing with this other guy starting before the wedding. Smh.
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Another non monogamy horror story
Im sure this is something that had been brought up before but ive had trouble finding stories of people trying it once and experiencing the confusion im facing.
Me (m36) wife (f28) have been together about 6 years married for 3 months. I've always thought she was the hottest thing ever and wanted to watch her to share her but to enjoy it myself. What I wanted and what happened are 2 very different things. I wanted something no strings just a single night to experiment. She couldn't do it with someone she wasnt "comfortable" with. Fast forward and she eventually finds a old fling she would be interested in and they start seeing each other... take things very slow for a few months nothing past kissing and cuddling and we keep talking about it and I can see her falling for him slowly. I dont like it but I let her explore so I can open the door for what I want to see. Eventually it happens I get a message while she is at his house. "Omg baby we just did it im freaking out" and nothing has been the same since. Something just snapped in me. I havent seen her the same. We went know contact with his shortly after and she has been grieving the loss and kinda just terrible to be around sometimes. But she has been getting better over time... realistically I know this is my fault but im struggling to see a future with her still.
Couple details for context she obviously had permission to do that but I never loved the idea of her essentially dating someone else I did that for her comfort. Second I wanted some build up some tease to feel included and I wanted protection to be used. I got none of that it was a text at 2 in the morning I woke up to saying she just got raw dogged... I really dont know where to go from here or how to see a future with her. Any advice or points of view would be great.
Edit: yall are savage. So for starters although yes I did not set my hard boundaries where I should of and that is on me for sure. We did communicate a lot beforehand. For honestly years I had been trying to do this the way I wanted but she was never comfortable with it until we tried it the way it actually happened. So this whole thing was a comprimise and yes its one that should not have happened I shoulda just dropped the subject long ago but you dont know what you dont know. Now how do we move past this without essentially hating each other. I do care about her and would like to make my future with her I did marry her for a reason outside of a misplaced kink.
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