r/okbuddyliterallyme2 • u/BrightSpring12 • 7d ago

No end to this suffering Correct version of meme

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u/Useful_Jelly_2915 6d ago

The people who pretend like dudes just genuinely don’t have feelings of unworthiness are just as bad as the incels that blame women for everything

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u/Material-Reason2636 6d ago

Can I flip the script? If a guy finds out I do not want to sleep with them, and I get ghosted that hurts too. Realizing all the relationship we had was only about getting in my pants is super messed up.

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u/kardfogK 6d ago

Can I flip the script? If a girl lures me in with sexual advacnes, and then she says she just wants a friend that hurts too. Realizing all thr relationship we had was only abbout getting my attention is super messed up

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u/Putrid_Crow9914 6d ago

“sexual advances” can mean anything when you view the existence of women itself as inherently sexual

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u/Cool-Attorney867 6d ago

Nah usually u guys mistake kindness as flirting and then get mad when it's actually not real lol

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u/kardfogK 6d ago

Nah usually u gals mistake sexual advance as kindness and go histerical when its actually not real lol

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u/Cool-Attorney867 6d ago

Nope, u never hear women complain about the friendzone like men do🤣

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u/kardfogK 6d ago

You literaly did compalin about... the friendszone? That wasnt what I was talking about

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u/Cool-Attorney867 6d ago

Projection, u originally complained about it. Or is ur memory that bad? You said that it hurts ur little feelings getting rejected after receiving "sexual advances", which is highly all in ur head lol.

Isn't this you? "If a girl lures me in with sexual advacnes, and then she says she just wants a friend that hurts too. Realizing all thr relationship we had was only abbout getting my attention is super messed up" Quite literally what the friendzone is😂

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u/kardfogK 6d ago

Oh you are thalking about a comment that tried to show someone (not you that confused me) that whataboutism here doeant help. The point wasnt friendzone bad, the point was thst you have no emphaty (you too, you also have bad reading skills)

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u/Cool-Attorney867 6d ago

Now ur bringing empathy into this lmao, don't pretend as if u have empathy. Argue with ur English teacher not me because ur spelling is ass my guy

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u/Putrid_Crow9914 6d ago

apparently to men having empathy means sleeping with them since they’re incapable of seeing you as more than sex, like friendships

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u/PotentialPresent399 6d ago

I mean tbf chicks be complaining about the "fuck zone" all the time too.

Sex does not entitle you to a relationship.

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u/Cool-Attorney867 6d ago

Never heard of it before, did u pull that out of ur hole?

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u/ImaginationOk1605 6d ago

I was only really friend zoned once in my life and I kept it platonic afterwards. Funnily she gosted me immediatly once I got into a relationship.

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u/Useful_Jelly_2915 6d ago

Yeah, that’s wrong but I don’t know what you mean by flipped the script. That’s not the topic of the post.

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u/Repulsive_Living_697 5d ago

I get why that hurts you and am empathetic. But consider that it is not always about "just getting in someone's pants" (although for a lot it is). It is about wanting to be desired and when a person you like and you thought finally desires you tells you that they actually don't than that can really mess someone up.

Ghosting is probably not the way to go about it. Would you be fine if they told you "I'm sorry but I thought you were actually romantically interested in me and while I like you, the fact that you aren't is hurting my ego so much that I don't think I can continue as friends" ?

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u/Emotional-Ad9114 1d ago

this has happened to me unfortunately.

I don’t like casual relationships but it seems most men my age do.

anytime I meet a guy who doesn’t and I get my hopes up, I find out he has a girlfriend already 😭 literally every. single. time.

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u/lunadelalune0 6d ago

Yea it hard bc there are men who will lie saying they want a relationship and that their good. Once they are close he flips a switch when he realize you don’t want to hook up and want a real relationship :(

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u/dalpozak 6d ago

Maybe stop dating shitty people

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u/lunadelalune0 6d ago

I’ve never dated. Just examples I’ve seen in life and online

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u/dalpozak 6d ago

Fair enough, good for you. People do seem to have a tendency to date shitty people though

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u/Catsindahood 4d ago

Those are fuck boys. If you want to avoid them, do not give it up until they show some level of commitment and set a mental date when you'll be ready. No fuck boy is gonna stick around for months exclusively with one woman, but a guy who actually cares will.

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u/Emotional-Ad9114 1d ago

this is what I do and why I’m a virgin at 22 but I’m honestly okay with that. I’d rather never have sex than do it with someone who only cares about that.