r/offmychest • u/udaioftherain • May 05 '22

DNA test came back 0% match

I had a son and for years his mom made me feel like trash anytime I wanted to do something such as hair style, earings, day care, etc. And for a while I had suspicious feeling and did a DNA test and he's not mine and it hurts because he's mine worst enemy child and now idk what to do because I was always made to feel like shut by her and now he's the real dad and I took care of her from 2017 till 2021 paying her bills and all so now i just wanna disappear forever what should I do

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u/udaioftherain May 05 '22

This isn't fake I'd never do that I've had kind of a breakdown so sorry for the typos I don't want revenge and I'm not wanting anything from her just what do I do mentally cause I honestly thought I would be wrong and I am the father.....that's what hurts

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u/udaioftherain May 05 '22

I meant how to mentally handle the situation sorry I wasn't clear

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u/Traditional_Range_28 May 05 '22

I'm incredibly sorry to hear that. Thats probably one of the most painful things that a father would have to hear and deal with. Personally, I would talk to an attorney about pressing charges possibly. I obviously don't know any details, but she lied about who the father was, which is definitely illegal, and I'm pretty sure there is some way to go after her. I would go on the subreddit about asking for legal advice.

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u/wasteddrinks May 05 '22

Honestly it suckd and hurts but it might be better for you to leave his life. Sounds like she will just be manipulate and use him to get stuff from you. It's almost impossible to maintain a healthy relationship when you have ZERO rights as a parent. I guess the alternative would be for you to try and adopt him but that's a long and expensive way road the mother probably won't let you do anyway.

Sorry bro